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I am 51 years old, and a mother and grandmother. My daughter is 27, and she has a 2-year old daughter whom I love more than life itself. So, 2 years ago I... View More

I am 51 years old, and a mother and grandmother. My daughter is 27, and she has a 2-year old daughter whom I love more than life itself. So, 2 years ago I became a grandma, and despite my worries about being old, it's the greatest thing to ever happen to me. Now, I am with the love of my life and about to get married for the first time!! I am from the SF Bay Area (all my life) and work as a legal secretary for the past 30+ years.

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May 29, 2021

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Feeling Down--others Don't Understand
Cristy in Community Conversations, on May 23, 2020 at 10:52 PM

Our wedding was supposed to be next Saturday. I'm trying not to think about it, but my heart is broken! I have been through so much in my life, and I have waited so long to find the right person to...

Kirsten, May 24, 2020 4 176
Silver Linings Anyone?
Cristy in Community Conversations, on March 25, 2020 at 7:05 PM

All my life, my mom was the positive force in my universe. She believed in positivity to carry us through hard times. I think she just couldn't stand being down. She was basically a happy person, and...

Natalie, Mar 30, 2020 6 130 1
Double Digits--aaaaahhhhh!!!
Cristy in Planning, on February 21, 2020 at 1:03 PM

OMG ladies! This is it! We've hit the 99 days mark!! I can't believe it! It has felt like it has taken FOREVER to get here! And now that we're here, I'm freaking out!! For almost 2 years now, I've...

Sara, Feb 21, 2020 6 58
Show me Your Proposals!
Cristy in Parties and Events, on January 27, 2020 at 4:47 PM

Do you have a photo of your future spouse proposing to you? Or something in the immediate aftermath? I want to hear your proposal stories! Was it a total surprise, or a well planned event? Tell me...

Angela, Feb 7, 2020 14 214
Pre-wedding Events
Cristy in Parties and Events, on January 13, 2020 at 4:31 PM

Hi all! I'm thinking a lot lately about pre-wedding events. You know, bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. Growing up, I never knew anyone to have a bachelorette party, and in fact had never heard...

Katie, Jan 14, 2020 14 149
Planning Milestones--save The Dates
Cristy in Planning, on January 6, 2020 at 4:49 PM

FYI: this is kind of long, but a good story. Just goes to show you that even the most meticulous planning can go haywire sometimes. We did it!! We finally sent our Save the Dates, and although it...

Cristy, Jan 7, 2020 3 98
Dj--must Have or Not so Much?
Cristy in Wedding Reception, on October 29, 2019 at 1:21 PM

I know there have been a lot of discussions about DJs. Here's my opinion: I know that hiring a DJ for your wedding can be expensive. It depends a lot on your area, but I've seen both lower priced, and...

Amie, Nov 15, 2019 19 210
Honeymoon--now or Later? Where to go?
Cristy in Honeymoon, on November 11, 2019 at 1:16 PM

Hi all, We were planning to take a Caribbean cruise for our honeymoon, right after the wedding. However, lately some life changes and financial pressures have us rethinking that idea. We're just not...

Rose, Nov 13, 2019 13 177
Good Etiquette Article
Cristy in Etiquette and Advice, on October 28, 2019 at 12:57 PM

This is a good article that answers a lot of questions I've seen in these forums. https://www.brides.com/gallery/wedding-etiquette-tips-for-brides-wedding-guest-etiquette

Anna, Oct 29, 2019 3 103 1
Men's Attire--i can't decide!
Cristy in Wedding Attire, on September 30, 2019 at 5:12 PM

Ok, so I'm really struggling with men's attire. I just don't know which direction to go in with this. FH is buying a new suit (or his parents are buying it for him as a gift). Most likely black, and I...

Clíodhna, Oct 3, 2019 4 63
Budgets--tell me your tales
Cristy in Planning, on July 29, 2019 at 2:37 PM

Hi all! I've been thinking a lot about budgets lately. It's a really hard topic for me. It's easy enough to say, "we have a $10,000 budget." But staying under that number, while still getting...

Susan, Sep 17, 2019 16 420 2
Let's Talk Themes
Cristy in Style and Décor, on August 15, 2019 at 7:04 PM

Hi all! I'm interested in your wedding theme, if you have one. When I first started planning, I didn't know what, if any, theme I wanted for my wedding. Then I thought, "I don't need a theme...." and...

Destiera, Aug 23, 2019 46 417 1
Show Me Your Photographers!!
Cristy in California Planning, on August 7, 2019 at 12:24 PM

Hi Ladies, I want to hear all about your photographers! Let's give all of our new members something to look at/think about regarding this all-important vendor. Most of us have hired or will hire a...

Ashley, Aug 8, 2019 7 123
Hair & Makeup Trial
Cristy in Hair and Makeup, on July 15, 2019 at 11:15 AM

So I had my hair and makeup trial yesterday. Overall, I think it turned out pretty good. There was a hiccup with my Amazon order, so I didn't have all of the extensions I wanted/needed. But my stylist...

Cristy, Jul 19, 2019 14 180 1
Planning Milestones--guest List
Cristy in Planning, on July 8, 2019 at 4:09 PM

OMG I finally got our guest list DONE!!!! No more additions, no more changes, DONE. It has taken a long time, and no small amount of stress to accomplish this. In my opinion, this is one of the...

Cristy, Jul 11, 2019 6 59
Save the Dates Have Arrived!!
Cristy in Planning, on June 28, 2019 at 2:51 PM

OMG I'm so excited!! We won't send them out for another month or so, but I'm just so happy that they are done, and ready to go. Sorry this pic is kinda blurry. I didn't have the proof on my work...

MrsD, Jul 1, 2019 10 112
Engagement Photos--pic Heavy
Cristy in Community Conversations, on June 7, 2019 at 11:59 AM

We had our photo session on May 12. Because of a technology glitch, I just got them last night! I think they turned out pretty good!! I was not at all happy with my hair, and I wasn't able to have my...

Haley, Jun 13, 2019 17 163
You and Your Love--throwback
Cristy in Community Conversations, on May 29, 2019 at 11:37 AM

Hi all! Whether you've known your future spouse (FS) for a year or for 10 years, show me the pictures!! I want to see pictures of you and FS back in the day! If you have pics of the two of you, early...

Alyssa, Jun 11, 2019 14 159
Ann's Bridal Bargains Sale!!
Cristy in Planning, on June 3, 2019 at 12:13 PM

I just got an email about a sale at Ann's Bridal Bargains. I'm designing my STDs currently, and will most likely order my invitations from there. Right now their Semi-Annual Sale has started, and...

Michelle, Jun 3, 2019 7 96
Keep Trying or Give Up???
Cristy in Family and Relationships, on March 25, 2019 at 3:15 PM

Hi all, I want to apologize in advance for the length of this post. I need some advice, but you'll need a little back story to understand. So, FH has one brother three years younger than him. Most of...

Nicole, Mar 26, 2019 33 406