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Cristy
Master May 2021

Planning Milestones--guest List

Cristy, on July 8, 2019 at 4:09 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

OMG I finally got our guest list DONE!!!! No more additions, no more changes, DONE.

It has taken a long time, and no small amount of stress to accomplish this. In my opinion, this is one of the hardest aspects of wedding planning. At first, I thought, oh this will be easy. I wrote down the names of all my family, all my friends, and coworkers and others in my life. FH did the same. Then we added a few names that FHs parents wanted us to invite (long time family friends).

But then you realize how much everything costs. Then you learn that the major costs (food/beverage/venue) all depend on the number of guests! Originally, our number was really high, and with it came a really high cost.

So, just when I thought I had my list done, we had to revise it based on the number we could actually afford to host. Then comes the back and forth with FH about inviting this friend or that friend, or will this one be offended if he learns he wasn't invited? Will that one be offended that this other one wasn't invited? UGH. Nightmare. I will say that I am one of the lucky few who don't have parents or in-laws breathing down my neck about the guest list. Because this is not FHs first marriage, his parents didn't really care who we invited, except for a couple of family friends, which we already had on our list.

But I've read some horror stories about couples really having a huge struggle with their parents and other relatives about the guest list. This is a hot button topic for sure.

I'm so glad it's over!!!! Tell me about your Guest List nightmares!

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Latest activity by Cristy, on July 11, 2019 at 10:46 AM
  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
    CourtneyBrittain ·
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    Thankfully, we haven’t had any nightmares yet 🤞🏼 We have a venue that holds 250, invited 286 and have heard back from 1/5 and are already down to 260
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    I'm so excited for you!
    We're going to start our save the date envelope addressing tonight.

    His mom says we have to invite some relatives he doesn't know/want to invite. We may argue that out this evening. Oh boy.

    My biggest issues are the Catholics and their plentiful numbers of children. Lol.
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  • Trista
    VIP September 2019
    Trista ·
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    My sister has a different father than me which comes with a whole different and not really connected side of the family. One of her cousins works for the same company as my mom and they talk often. She was talking to my mom and mentioned how she would for sure be at the wedding... except I wasn't planning to invite her! 🙈
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Yes I completely agree with your sentiment about how shocking it is when you figure out how much it costs per person. I feel like no one really gets that until they wedding plan themselves. I had a friend who really wanted a plus one but it was sort of like she would be there with a group of friends and I just didn't have room for everyone to get a plus one. AND it's just hella expensive to let everyone have a plus one knowing how bloated it would make my list
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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    That's such a weight off having your guest list finished. well done Cristy Smiley smile

    What guest number did you end up with?

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    Yes, it does feel really good to have it done. It's so funny too, because over the last couple of weeks, FH will come to me and say something like "honey did I remember to invite so-and-so?" and it's usually someone I've never heard of, or someone that even FH hasn't seen in 15+ years. Every time I'm like, "list is locked, don't ask." Smiley smile

    After some debate, we ended up with 84 guests. So, if the average attrition rate applies, we should end up with about 65-70 at the wedding. Not bad!! We were soooooo trying to stay under 100. Yay!!

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