Cristy
Rockstar May 2020

Dj--must Have or Not so Much?

Cristy, on October 29, 2019 at 1:21 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 19
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I know there have been a lot of discussions about DJs. Here's my opinion:

I know that hiring a DJ for your wedding can be expensive. It depends a lot on your area, but I've seen both lower priced, and higher priced DJs in a lot of different areas. So, maybe it depends on their experience level. I know here in CA, DJs are a big thing, so there are a lot of companies to choose from (some big, some small), and a wide range of pricing options. Having said that, I truly believe the old saying that "you get what you pay for."

I've been to weddings with and without DJs. I've seen live bands, string quartets, and even a harpist. Then there are the weddings where they decide (for whatever reason) not to hire a DJ or any sort of band, and use a playlist instead. What I have found (mostly) is that the weddings without a DJ are not as fun as the ones with a DJ.

The last DJ-less wedding I attended was just last year. They were using a playlist and some borrowed speakers. They had someone to oversee it, in case anything went wrong, the music would be tended to. Unfortunately, the person the couple "hired" to oversee the music didn't really know what he was doing. There were large gaps of time where there was no music at all. The poor kid would get the music going, only to have it shut off after only one song. There was nobody to make announcements, and it left the reception feeling very unorganized. A lot of guests were milling around the banquet room not sure where to go, where to find drinks, food, and should we dance? Went to the bar to be told they weren't serving drinks. It turns out that all the food was BBQ being served outside--they had tables inside and outside to sit and eat. Drinks out there too. But nobody announced the food was outside, so when you enter the space, you had to go all the way to the back, around the corner past the bar, and exit a door to the outside patio.

My point is that much of the confusion could have been avoided if there had been a DJ. One of the perks I like best about an experienced DJ is the fact that he/she can also act as MC for your event. Ours will make all of the announcements, from the start of cocktail hour, all the way to the end of the night where he will announce the last dance of the evening. He will keep us on track for the special dances, cake cutting, bouquet toss, etc. It's not always about the music, even though that is what the DJ is for. They can also help keep an event with a lot of moving parts (wedding) on track, and give all of your guests a great evening!!

So tell me your thoughts about hiring a DJ. Worth every penny? Or a total waste of money? I've seen both sides, and I'm going with the DJ--best money I've ever spent!!

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  • Mrs. Sarantos
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. Sarantos ·
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    I think it’s worth the expense. Some people don’t want a lot of dancing but like you said it keeps a good atmosphere and flow.
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  • Andrea
    VIP April 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Well, for me, my godfather is going to be a DJ. He used to DJ with my dad back in the days as well. He has been a DJ in huge events in my family, more notably my grandmother's 80th in June of this year. So luckily for us we don't have to "pay" him but I've offered many times and he has rejected. We will buy him a really nice gift, though. I agree that having someone control the music and be able to make announcements is very important, and allows the wedding to run smoothly and effectively. Keeps everyone informed! Even though most guests on my list are indeed adults, when you're being invited to a function (and I'm guilty) I'm usually stuck in my seat until I hear someone tell me "GO!" LMAO so it definitely is important. I trust my Godfather to do a fantastic job, as he always has done. And I am definitely Team DJ. However, even if someone decides to do a playlist, that's perfectly fine as well, as long as they know how to set up the music to autoplay, and that they have a "host" (be it a parent, a trusted friend, the best man, the MOH) who will be the one giving general announcements.

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  • Stefanie
    Devoted December 2019
    Stefanie ·
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    For me one of the most important vendors is the dj (photographer being the most important for me) at the end of the day guests will only remember how they felt at the wedding and the dj can make or break the ambience for sure! Last wedding I attend to they had a bad dj (it was my best friend wedding) and he didn’t know when to play the songs they told him too and then started playing some really weird song that we have never heard about and that day I realized how important a DJ can be
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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    100% worth it in my opinion. I never even considered not having a DJ. It just seems like extra, unnecessary stress. We just met with our DJ's last week and they are amazing! We actually heard them at a friends wedding last year, which is why we decided to go with them. They will act as our MC and make all our announcements and be sure to keep the crowd involved. They have a separate system that they'll use for our outdoor ceremony so that their main system is set up inside for the reception, which means that we won't have to wait for them to break down and then set back up and will have music right from the beginning of cocktail hour. Another plus for us is that they help with the timing of everything, making sure everyone is where they need to be when they need to be there.

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal Online ·
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    There's another post about this today, and the last I looked the responses were 100% "a DJ is a critical part of the wedding." I agree. Daughter's absolutely had a huge positive impact on their completely perfect wedding. I've been to weddings with a playlist, and it definitely has a very different vibe and potential outcome. Unless it's a very small wedding at home or in a private room at a restaurant, I think a DJ should be a priority to seriously consider.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Worth it. I think a DJ really makes the party and determines how the reception will go. We went a wedding this summer that did not have a DJ or MC at all, just a band that was playing jazz music. While this was nice, there wasn't much for dancing and no one in the band was announcing anything. So for the entrance the bride's mom made the announcement. It felt kind of strange to me and awkward. Plus when the band would take breaks there was supposed to be music playing off a playlist but it didn't work for some reason so instead there was 20-30 mins of silence. The first time they took a break about the half the guests left. I am super happy we hired a DJ and I think he is worth every penny. Plus he is going to provide the ceremony and cocktail hour music.

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  • Kate
    Devoted November 2019
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    I think it's worth it. I've had the most fun at wedding receptions when the DJ was great! We are using a company that is essentially a preferred vendor at our reception venue (they offer a $150 discount for DJ'ing receptions held there). They've been in business for over 30 years and get great reviews. Planning was a breeze with them - we had a great online system to submit all of our names, music requests, etc. (really everything) ahead of time, and met with their events coordinator 2 weeks ago. They helped us work out our reception timeline and gave us a lot of helpful tips, and we told them all about our preferences, guests, etc. Before we left the meeting, they sat down with us so we could listen to our first dance song and point out exactly where we wanted it faded out.

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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
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    Completely agree with you. I was originally team no DJ, but I'm SO glad I reconsidered! I love the DJ we've chosen, he has an awesome personality. I will say that the quotes we received from most DJ companies were $1,000 or more, which swayed us in the direction of no DJ. Thankfully we found our DJ at almost half that price and we can't wait to have him at our wedding!

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  • Marie
    Savvy April 2020
    Marie ·
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    My FH thinks we are paying too much for our DJ ($800) but I personally feel like it’s a good investment. I’ve been following our DJ in social media and she always has people on the dance floor. I’ve been to weddings where no dancing happened and they were a let down. People want to party. Some of my guests are traveling long distances and our wedding will be their only trip for the year. I want it to be worth it and memorable... part of that is the music and dancing. So I’m not regretting our spend on dj!
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  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·
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    For me it was a must have. For my first marriage we went the boombox way, it was 1991...and it wasn't great. I could and did give on many things for the wedding. The DJ was not one of them. Sadly the WiFI at the venue was spotty at best so we didn't get to do all the things we wanted, but we had music

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    We paid $1,100 for our DJ in Denver and he was worth EVERY PENNY and we would have paid $200-$600 more for his services. He kept the wedding flow going so well & was a phenomenal DJ.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think they're worth it
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  • Amie
    Savvy May 2020
    Amie ·
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    I went to my first wedding without a dj... my nephew just married in Carlsbad, CA (near San Diego). And they had a playlist and asked guests to make song suggestions via Facebook prior to and on rsvp cards. You know what? They were smart because my song was played, thank you to them, and they saved all around. Smart I think because they’re using $ on what’s important to them.
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  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·
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    I may not agree, but I totally respect that decision. I think we all should spend our money on what's important to us, and not on what family/parents/society thinks is important.

    Music and high energy and a party experience is important to us, so we knew that equals hiring a great DJ--which we did!

    But I concede it's not for everyone. Happy planning!

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  • Amie
    Savvy May 2020
    Amie ·
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    Don’t get me wrong, lol, I’m not doing the same but they’re much younger and it worked that day because it was a small wedding. That won’t quite work for me even though I should save, I’m marrying the love of my life and I want everyone to share in so we’re streaming, showing videos during some music, doing it all!
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
    Sara ·
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    The dj is the third most important vendor for me..after the venue and the caterer. We're having a wedding to marry in front of our loved ones and then celebrate with them after..and that celebration to me means dancing!! I don't want to be worried about whether or not the speakers are going to work or the songs are going to come on at the right time and in the right order..or who's going to announce what.
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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    We didn't have a DJ and everything was perfect, but everyone is different Smiley smile
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  • Yoice
    Rockstar March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    I think is worth it because they get the party going. A party in general is always better with a DJ. As far as price goes that's the one place you can really shop around and get a wide range of prices. One that was important to me was getting a company instead of a solo person. Life happens and emergencies, accidents, anything and that's a risk you take when hiring a solo DJ. A company might have a back up person that can cover so you don't have that headache. My company had just 1 main DJ but a full team that anyone was able to cover for them. I also had a team of 3 on sight at all times and again that was important to me.

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  • Amie
    Savvy May 2020
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    I attended a wedding last weekend and boy oh boy the DJ was over the top in an annoying way! My fiancé had tons of comments and questions to go over after we left. He made me promise we wouldn’t have a wedding that was over-the-top and more laid back, ugh 😑
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