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Whats the deal with the MONEY DANCE???
what is done ???

Married: 11/14/2009
Posted On: Aug 20, 2009 at 2:33 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Aug 20, 2009 at 9:09 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
The bride and groom are on the dance floor. Your DJ or MC announces it's time for the money dance and explains how it is done. We usually put a garter on the groom's arm, and the bride hangs a little purse from her wrist. The song starts, and the first people put money in the garter or purse to dance with the bride or groom. If they are taking too long, or there are more people waiting, your DJ will announce to cut in at any time. We usually have our clients choose two songs for the money dance: one for sure, and the second one in case there are more people waiting to dance.

Married: 11/07/2009
Aug 20, 2009 at 12:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't know. I always thought it was a little tacky, But that's JMO. I went to a wedding where the bride did it, and the MC was making it like an auction. BUt they called it the dollar dance. Pay a dollar, dance with the bride, but everyone wanted to do it so the dj was saying, now for 5 $ ok do I have 6? 6 $ now ten? It was a little ridiculous IMO. You can dance with me without having to pay. Some peopel do it to help pay for the wedding but I figure if you can't pay for it yourself don't have such an elaborate wedding. Don't ask your guests to pay to dance with the bride. once again, JMO


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Aug 20, 2009 at 12:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've seen it at only one wedding. Guests put the money in a container at the front by the DJ, not to the couple directly. And I don't think there was a set "price." A lot of their guests seemed to enjoy it - including a bunch of the groom's friends who paid to dance with him at the same time (hilarious to watch). I have heard the concern also that it could be tacky. But, I suppose how it goes will depend on the temperament of your guests.

Married: 09/19/2009
Aug 20, 2009 at 12:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think it is SO trashy!! Your guests are there to celebrate with you- that should be enough- you should never ask guests for money! SO WRONG! I agree with sugarpie- don't try to go all out when you know you cant afford it and depend on guests to help you out.

Nicole K.

Creative Elegance Weddings
Aug 20, 2009 at 3:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My husband and I actually had big arguments about this. He wanted to do it and I did not. I felt really uncomfortable dancing with the other men. We did end up doing it, but I would say do whatever you are comfortable with.
Aug 20, 2009 at 4:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The money dance is traditional in many areas, but if you do it you'll need to think about the amount of time it will take. If 60 people each dance 10 seconds with the bride, that's 10 minutes of continuous dancing for the bride. For larger weddings, the money dance can result in a tired bride and many people watching than participating.



studio G occasions
Aug 20, 2009 at 4:50 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It is very traditional in some cultures - I was opposed to it, but it was thrown in before I knew it. It was actually quite fun - I got to dance with some of the older gentleman I never, ever would have danced with AND they very nearly paid for our honeymoon with the $ we got. (OK it was twenty some year ago & the dollar went further than it does now, but still....)

Married: 10/23/2010
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Aug 21, 2009 at 7:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I am going to do it at my own wedding. I have been to many weddings where they did the dollar dance and it was so much fun because you got to talk to the bride/groom for a few moments without them being interupted. Also this makes it easier for the couple to dance with people they normally wouldn't get to dance with because they are so busy during the reception.
Aug 23, 2009 at 9:56 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I loved the idea of some one-on-one social/dancing time with many of my guests, but didn't want to charge them for it. My husband and I opted instead for "dance tickets." Each guest recieved a ticket that entitled them to dance with the bride and one to dance with the groom at any time. Just be prepared for cut-ins!

Married: 08/13/2011
Aug 29, 2009 at 2:42 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I know this isn't what you were asking about, but recently while checking out venues for my wedding, I was told about this heads or tails game. It's what me and my FH have decided to do instead of the money dance. Here's what you do:
Basically it's an auction, you get an item to have as a prize for winning (Guns, lottery tickets, Alcohol have all been used) and you set a price for the game ($1-$5).
The DJ or (whoever you have announce) has everyone stand up and flips a coin, then asks the guests to put their hands on their head if they think it's heads and to put their hands on their bum if they think it's tail. Everyone who got it right stays standing, everyone else sits. You continue with the game until you have one person left standing.
Hope this
Sep 03, 2009 at 2:03 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
The tradition began as a way to get a "grub stake" for the couple, and originally, only the men would dance with the bride, and they would keep going through the line as the groom cheered on the bride to "earn" more money for them. The quasi-sadistic reason behind it was for the men to literally "wear out" the bride so she could not fulfill her "wifely obligation" at the end of the evening.

It can be a very touching moment when the guests share a special moment with the bride/groom; it can be very tacky (as in, "We paid for our air fare and sprang for a nice present, and now they want another dollar??? I don't THINK so!"); it can be somewhere in between.

As a DJ, I dislike them because they take so long. If 120 guests get just 30 seconds each with the bride, then you've spent an hour of dance time with only two people dancing. Everyone else is either running up the bar bill or leaving or sitting there bored to death.

I advise my clients to prioritize everything before deciding

Meant To Be Wed

Meant To Be Wed
Sep 09, 2009 at 11:22 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I know it is a cultural thing (where I'm from originally, it is almost expected, sadly), but I think it is completely tacky. Your guests should not have to bring any money for the reception (parking, alcohol or tips, etc.).

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