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If you’re an introvert, the idea of being the center of attention at your wedding can be a little (or extremely) nerve-wracking. From conversing with guests to performing the first dance, introverted brides and grooms may find their wedding day to be overwhelming. Fortunately, there are a few things that you and your partner can do to make the day a bit more comfortable and easier for everyone.
Check out our tips for shy brides and grooms.
Cut your guest listA smaller guest list means fewer people to interact with and hopefully, less stress. Keep the guest list to family members and friends that you actually know and want present on your big day. So that means your in-laws’ co-workers and your great-aunt’s neighbors shouldn’t make the cut. Choosing a small venue with a strict capacity can be your “excuse” in keeping your guest list intimate.
Choose your wedding party wiselyWhile having a big wedding party can be lots of fun, it can be a bit overwhelming too. Keep your wedding party to just your nearest and dearest to avoid any unnecessary drama, and to have an inner circle that you know has your back.
Do an engagement sessionIf you’re camera-shy, having an engagement session before your wedding will help you feel more confident in front of the camera before your wedding day. Your photographer will also get a better sense of your personality and which poses you feel most comfortable with.
Don’t skip the rehearsalWalking down the aisle will be your big moment in the spotlight, so it’s best to get some practice beforehand. Make sure you schedule a rehearsal for the day before your wedding, or the morning of, so that you’ll feel comfortable with exactly how the processional will go.
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Choose the right attireWhen shopping for your wedding dress or suit and accessories, pick attire that makes you feel comfortable and confident. If that means wearing flats instead of heels, go for it! And when it comes to hair and makeup, don’t overdo it. Looking and feeling like the best version of yourself, not an unrecognizable glambot, is totally the way to go.
Say “yes” to a first lookMany brides and grooms have told us that choosing to do a “first look” was the best wedding-related decision they made. The first look allows couples to see each other for the first time in a private setting, not in front of all of their family members and friends at the ceremony (too much pressure!). It also affords couples the opportunity to take their wedding portraits in advance and, again, in private.
Keep the getting-ready area calmWhether you’re getting dressed at home, in a hotel room, or at your venue, try to keep the environment as calm and stress-free as possible. Limit your posse to just your nearest and dearest, provide food and drink, and create a playlist of music you love to keep the mood as chill as possible—you can even put on a movie if that helps! Also, we recommend hiring a wedding planner, or at the very least a day-of coordinator, to handle any last-minute tasks or unexpected issues that may arise so you won’t have to deal with unnecessary distractions or stressors.
Take breaksIf at any point during the day things become too overwhelming, it is perfectly okay to take a short break. After the ceremony is a great opportunity to steal a few moments alone, and sneaking away for a few moments during dinner or dancing at the reception can be a welcome respite, too. It might be a good idea to have a code word with your new spouse and/or your wedding party members to signal that you need some solo time—even if it’s just to go to the bathroom to freshen up.
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