I'm wondering if anyone is choosing or did choose to keep their last name or hyphenated your last name? If you did this was there a specific reason? (And if it's not too personal can you state why you choose to keep your last name or hyphenate?)
I'm wondering if anyone is choosing or did choose to keep their last name or hyphenated your last name?
If you did this was there a specific reason?
(And if it's not too personal can you state why you choose to keep your last name or hyphenate?)
I am on the fence. I am probably going to take his name. But I flip flop between all three options multiple times a week. I am just soo undecided. And FH says he doesn't have an opinion. In his family it is unusual for the girls to change their last name. But my family is extremely traditional. But I am somewhere in between, so I really just don't know what to do.
Tammy, I'm planning on taking FH's name but keeping mine as a second middle name type thing.
But I'm seriously considering keeping mine professionally. I'm a designer and kind of have my own brand. I have a logo and a website. Surprisingly, the bigger problem I'm having is with the domain. His last name is more common than mine, so just firsnamelastname.com is taken. I would like my website domain and my email address to match and that is proving impossible.
Out of curiosity why did it bother you to not have the same last name? My parents actually were divorced and yeah, back in the 80's and 90's this was a bit confusing but it only takes a sentence to explain lol.
Taking FH's last name. I have a brother & 2 nephews so I don't have to worry about our unique last name losing it's existence. Keeping my middle name because it's after my dad and dropping my last name, no one knows how to say it or spell it anyways.
I want to hyphenate my name soo bad but my FH is not trying to hear it smh. I have my mom's maiden name that comes from my grandfather. He is my everything so I want to hold on to it. At the same time I undstd it's a new start blah blah blah lol
I always thought I wouldn't change it, its only in the last couple of years that I decided I wanted the same name as my kids. I would hypenate except our names are terrible together and I would never curse my children with that last name haha.
I am hyphenating. I have a son that has my current last name ... FH is not his bio dad but might as well be. My maiden name is listed on everything of my sons for the last 9 years, including all school and doctor records. Sometimes those places get their panties in a bunch when things don't line up just so, so I am going to hyphenate for now. In the somewhat near future my son will be adopted by FH and we will all have the same last name. Also, I really (REALLY!) love my maiden name
My last name's way cooler than his , so I tried to convince him to take mine... that didn't happen. He's fine with me keeping my maiden name, but I'm going to change it when we have kids I think. When I do, I'm dropping my current middle name and making my maiden name my middle name.
Changing my middle name is not an option. My middle name is my grandmothers, who was an amazing women, an IMHO would just be disrespectful to her memory. Not to mention it would probably greatly hurt my father's feelings if I did that.
FH changing his last name to mine is out, as he owns his own company and his company name has his last name in it. So that could get weird and difficult business wise.
Children are and never will be a factor in our future, so I don't have to worry about the weirdness or difficulties this could present down the road by having parents with 2 different last names.
I guess I feel the same way as Emily. I've had my last name for 38 years and don't feel the need to change it just because I'm getting married. But yet, at the same time, I know this is something that is very important to FH.
I'm having a lot of internal struggle with this.
I thank you all for your comments and your reasons for why you did or did not change your last name.