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Yam
“Tacky” vs “elegant”
Yam, on July 19, 2019 at 7:47 PM

Anyone else getting burnt out on either word? It’s like for one day you have to be something you’re not otherwise you’re “tacky”. Look I’ve drank my wine out of a coffee cup before, I know I’m not...

Florida Marlins, Jul 20, 2019 10 1,067 1
Liza
Can i request formal attire on invites?
Liza, on July 18, 2019 at 3:09 PM

My mom and I are in disagreement about this. I want to put "Dress is formal" on the bottom of my invitations but my mom thinks that is rude. Background: I am getting married in a barn but nothing...

Judith, Jul 20, 2019 34 3,026
Melissa
church ceremony and NO RECEPTION. yes or no?
Melissa, on March 12, 2011 at 5:07 PM

My fiancee and i have come to the conclusion that we will do the ceremony and NO reception. We were planning a small wedding in the 1st place about 60-70 guest we found a cheap reception hall...

Vicky, Jul 19, 2019 37 19,879
monica
Greeting guests before the ceremony?
monica, on May 20, 2016 at 1:29 PM

Has anyone greeted their guests before the ceremony as they arrive? We are thinking of doing this instead of a doing a receiving line after the ceremony or table visits. We are doing some things very...

Tina, Jul 19, 2019 21 7,581 3
Amberly
Wedding Invitation Wording *already Married*
Amberly, on July 17, 2019 at 9:13 PM

Long story short, my husband and I got legally married March 2018, but we’re just having our ceremony for it this October. I’m putting together my formal invitations and have mixed decisions on how my...

Martha, Jul 18, 2019 7 2,743
NJ Bride
Gratuity built into our contract, but not given to the servers?
NJ Bride, on August 24, 2011 at 1:54 PM

So... I just found something out that confused me. We have gratuity already worked into the per person price of our contract, but we still need to add on tax. So I asked our contact how tax is...

Vicky, Jul 17, 2019 18 2,288
Brianna N
Hand addressing invitation envelopes?
Brianna N, on July 8, 2019 at 4:23 PM

Hey guys I have heard that traditionally invitation envelopes are hand written, and I like this idea. I have decent handwriting, but it still makes me nervous that they won't look as nice, because I...

Jennifer, Jul 17, 2019 61 1,342
Ashley
No bridal shower or bachelorette party in sight?
Ashley , on July 16, 2019 at 8:52 PM

My wedding is starting to get closer now (Sept 21st, 2019) and I still haven't heard a peep from anyone about a bridal shower or bachelorette party! My mother moved out of state about 2 months ago and...

Ashley, Jul 17, 2019 36 3,513
Mary
Am i invited to the wedding?
Mary, on June 12, 2019 at 12:58 PM

This is the first personal message I’ve received but Ive had plenty of “when is the wedding?” “are we invited?” type comments and I honestly don’t know how to respond. I think this is rude, I don’t...

Mary, Jul 17, 2019 49 3,391 1
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Mother-in-law & Photos
Sydney, on July 16, 2019 at 8:07 PM

I completed my photo shot list, which was very detailed so no one is left out. However my mother-in-law who is paying for the majority of the wedding slightly demanded that extended family photos,...

Sydney, Jul 17, 2019 9 1,460 1
F
guest that didn't give a gift
flor, on July 27, 2017 at 4:12 PM

I feel stupid sending a thank you card to the people that didn't even have the manners to by a card.

Ashley, Jul 17, 2019 65 2,399
Margaret
Wedding Party - Two Best Men?
Margaret, on July 15, 2019 at 7:36 PM

Hi all! My fiance and I are in the midst of figuring out our wedding parties. I am pretty set on my side but my FH on the other hand is a mess lol. So he has a friend who he has been close with since...

Margaret, Jul 17, 2019 4 476
Anna
Should parents chip in the same amount of money to our wedding as my sisters?
Anna, on July 16, 2019 at 6:56 PM

So, a few years ago my parents gave my sister some money to help with her wedding. Now I’m getting married next year. My parents said they’d help pay for our wedding too. My question is: Should I...

Anna, Jul 16, 2019 20 1,379
Private User
I don't want wedding photos taken by guests on Social media. Help!
Private User, on August 5, 2013 at 7:36 AM

I love Social media, but I am also very private. Like many other people out there, I like being in control of what I put out on the Internet. We invited our closest family and friends to the wedding...

Jes, Jul 16, 2019 42 3,742
J
i really don’t want to be my future brother-in-laws groomsman.
Jorge, on July 16, 2019 at 2:14 AM

My sister wants me to be her future husbands groomsman. Here’s the thing: I don’t like him and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me. He’s more or less the embodiment of Reddit, which is something I...

Kayla, Jul 16, 2019 13 1,831
S
Cash Bar vs. Open Bar
Sarah, on July 15, 2019 at 11:31 AM

So, our venue is really expensive already, and they are TABC certified. That means that all alcohol has to go through them, They have marked up the prices insanely($320 for a keg of bud light)....

Brittney, Jul 16, 2019 23 1,385 1
Rachel
Do vendors get escort cards?
Rachel, on July 15, 2019 at 12:57 PM

Are you putting your vendors’ name on escort cards, to be displayed with your guests’ escort cards? Mine will be sitting at a table together, which will have a table number on it. Would you include...

Jolie, Jul 16, 2019 5 1,068
M
Realistic maid of honor duties
Monica, on July 15, 2019 at 1:12 PM

I am having some bridal party drama that I did not expect. I asked one of my closest friends to be a bridesmaid and she got super upset that shes not the maid of honor. She was disappointed (which...

Jolie, Jul 16, 2019 17 1,693
Jazmine
Semi-formal? Garden? Formal?
Jazmine, on July 14, 2019 at 8:30 AM

Hey everyone! I’m kind of torn about telling people what the dress code is. Few things about the wedding: 1. It’s during the day from 2-5 2. We are only having passed appetizers, alcohol and cake 3....

Jeanie, Jul 16, 2019 17 1,401
M
Need help with formal invitation wording!
Michelle, on July 12, 2019 at 9:51 PM

Hi! Our ceremony start time is 3:45. How would you word this? Quarter before four o'clock Quarter to four o'clock Three forty-five Quarter before four in the evening ??

Dana, Jul 16, 2019 7 2,588
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