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Wedding Party - Two Best Men?

Margaret, on July 15, 2019 at 7:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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Hi all!

My fiance and I are in the midst of figuring out our wedding parties. I am pretty set on my side but my FH on the other hand is a mess lol.

So he has a friend who he has been close with since childhood, almost like a brother he didn't have. When this friend got married, my FH was a groomsman but not the best man. Then there is the second friend of whom my FH has known since high school, lived with for several years before we moved in together, and was best man at his wedding.

My FH always thought that the childhood friend would be his best man but he became conflicted once he was best man at the other friend's wedding. He knows he does not have to 'return-the-favor' when it comes to titles. There is also the conflict of having gone through more life events together with friend 2 than friend 1.

I'm having a maid and matron of honor on my side. As far as I can tell, there are no other titles for the groom's side. He isnt sure if he wants to give two best man titles out. What other titles can we give that's kinda equivalent to best man or at least a step above groomsmen?

Thanks all!

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Cher Horowitz · on July 15, 2019 at 8:28 PM
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How about Man of Honor?
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Margaret · on July 15, 2019 at 8:31 PM
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I had brought that title up but the 'of honor' aspect has the connotation that they belong on the bride's side.
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Sinéad · on July 17, 2019 at 7:30 AM
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Hey Margaret! Congratulations on your engagement! Welcome to the WeddingWire community! It’s so great to have you join us!
As you mentioned, there is absolutely no reason that your FH cannot have two Best Men. Is there a reason why your FH doesn’t want both men to have the same title?
You mentioned that you are having a Maid and a Matron of Honor. The only distinction between these two is that a Matron of Honor is already married, so there isn’t actually an equivalent for men since the title is merely Best Man.
If both men are being honored by being asked to be in the wedding party, I’m sure they will not mind what their ‘title’ is.
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Margaret · on July 17, 2019 at 10:51 AM
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Hi Sinéad,
He said it's too confusing having two best men. Which one has which responsibilities, who holds the rings, who walks first, etc.... I tried telling him it's a non-issue and he's making it a bigger deal but he'd rather have two different titles than have two people share the same title.

The only reason I am having a matron and maid of honor is because my best friend is expecting her first child in October and I dont think it would be fair to ask her to have MOH responsibilities while balancing a new born. My other MOH on the other hand is someone I live with, have known for 10 years, and is capable of filing the gaps. It just happens to work out that one is married while the other is not.
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