Am i invited to the wedding?

Oh god. You know I had a friend joke about showing up (he wasn't initially invited) but then I had room so I eventually invited him. However that is a really rude thing to do just because it makes you feel put on the spot. You can just either not address it or just say I'd love it but we just don't have the space, etc. I usually brush it off

Oh my god if I got a fb message like that I would ignore it. I guess the best thing to do is say we’re only inviting close family.

“We wish we could invite everyone, but we unfortunately have budget and venue constraints. We would love to celebrate with you after everything settles down.”

Leave it on read!
Alternative if the wedding is far out just say you and your husband arent finalizing the guest list yet. If it's close say sorry we reached guest cap that the venue/our budget can afford.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I’ve deleted comments on other posts because I don’t want everyone to know when we are having it and then not get an invite. But Then i feel bad for deleting comments 🤷🏾‍♀️😂 I’ll need to come up with something good so I don’t feel so bad addressing people like this

View Quoted Comment Yes! Ignoring it for now, I feel so awkward trying to let them down easy

View Quoted Comment This is awesome, very well put! Thank you🤗

View Quoted Comment Agreed! I like that☺️ Thank you!

I hate messages like this, either in passing or less direct. My honest (but rude) answer: "You're not invited" sorry, not sorry....

The more polite answer is something along the lines of "I'm so happy you want to spend our big day with us, unfortunately due to (space, budgetary, whatever) limitations we are unable to accommodate all our friends that day. I hope you understand. Maybe we can (catch up, celebrate) over drinks/dinner sometime soon?"

How many people are you actually inviting? It seems much easier to let someone down if you're having a smaller wedding.

If you know this person kind of well but not enough to invite them, I'd say "We are keeping our guest list small but FH and I would love to get drinks/dinner and celebrate with you later!" I wouldn't be offended if someone told me that way.

I also feel like you could just ignore this. I've had several people (mostly my parents/grandparents friends) say to me in person "oh I hope you don't forget us when you send the invites!" and I just smile and change the subject or say "oh we haven't made a guest list yet". They'll get the message eventually if you don't say anything.

If one of you has a large family, it's the perfect excuse when this comes up. FH's extended family is almost three times the size of mine (75+ vs. 30). Thanks to that, we both had to be choosy with the friends we are inviting, and neither of us is inviting any coworkers (as much as I'd like to). I've deliberately avoided posted anything about the wedding since we got engaged in February, other than an Instagram story here or there. I'm hoping that no one reaches out out of the blue to ask...

View Quoted Comment Thank you, trust me I want to say that!

View Quoted Comment We are inviting 80 to maybe 100 people. Ignoring it for now until I feel better about how to respond, I just need to remember it’s not about who wants/can come it’s just about us so at the end of the day if I hurt feelings oh well this is about the two of us

This is gonna keep happening unfortunately. I just don’t think some people understand all of the money and planning that actually goes into a wedding. They don’t realize how rude they’re being. Ughhh 😑 As others mentioned above, just either ignore them or respond politely by explaining that you wish you could invite everyone, but your budget or venue won’t allow for it. Of course, I’ve gotten to the point where I just nervously laugh and walk away if it’s in person. Lol

View Quoted Comment Good call! 💕

View Quoted Comment Honestly I’m on the road of not posting anymore! My family is a bit larger and this is a destination wedding because we moved to FL a year ago, everything is so expensive I can’t afford to invite people who I’ve only known for a short season in my life. Thank you! & Good luck☺️

View Quoted Comment Uhhh so frustrating! Thank you🥰

Yeah, I avoid posting on social media about the wedding. I made one mass post to remind guests to book their hotel rooms because the block closes soon, but FB had a feature where you can select the specific people who see it, so I restricted it to only those who I invited. That's an option if you still want to post on social media. I, thankfully, only had 1 person ask about this. It was early on and she was so excited and said she can't wait for the wedding, and it's a perfect excuse to lose her baby weight. She's a really sweet person and a coworker and neighbor, so I just added her. Otherwise, what others have said, the "we'd love to have you, but...." should work well.

View Quoted Comment Oh no... that’s just rude, rockiegrl420! Shame on her. Be more like lauren_milan! That’s the proper response. I don’t know why some people can’t just congratulate and move on. Just gotta make everything about themselves! Lol 🙄 If you’re invited, you will know... when you get your invitation in the mail. 😆

So awkward! I'm glad I didn't get any of this. To be fair, we have a large guest list so we included lots of people. I'd either not respond at all (this would make more sense if you never talk to the person anyway) or say something like "I'm so sorry, our guest list and budget only allows for a small guest list. Thank you for the good wishes on our wedding day."