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Parents are divorced - What should a "step mother" wear to my wedding?
My father's wife is stressing about what to wear to my wedding. Being she is a "step mother", should she dress formal like the actual mother of the bride? We have never had a close relationship, and we rarely talk or see one another. She is also a heavy set woman. My wedding is in the fall in Arizona being held outdoors with the colors of copper, black, and champagne. My bridesmaids will all be in floor length copper and black gowns. My own mother has not chosen a dress yet either, but is also very heavy. I am very confused about what to tell them.

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Apr 23, 2010 at 8:33 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
As a "Plus Size" gal myself, ask them what THEY would be comfortable with. I see nothing wrong with either of them wearing any of the possible options.... a gown, a tea-length dress or a beautiful formal suit. (Nothing that would be worn at the office, but a formal affair type suit).
Apr 23, 2010 at 1:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree she they should wear what is comfortable for them but definitely in formal attire. Perhaps you want to find out what color your mom is wearing so that your step-mom doesn't wear the same color.
Apr 23, 2010 at 11:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Perhaps you could go with your mom and step mom on separate occasions to find something that complements each one's style? A nice gown or maybe even a pantsuit might be something to consider, and they could wear it again and again for other events in the future.

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Apr 25, 2010 at 10:58 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
She should wear the wedding colors. If even if you pick one color for your mom and the other for your step mom. You have to remember to include her out of the the respect of your father

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