Wedding registry etiquette for guests can get confusing. After all, there doesn’t seem to be a rule book. Well, at least there wasn’t a rule book — until now! Confused about how to shop for the happy couple? We’ve got you covered. Below you'll find all the wedding registry tips and tricks you need know to make certain you’re following wedding registry etiquette the next time you're invited to a wedding.
Got gift and registry questions? Who doesn't. Here’s the wedding registry etiquette for guests you need to know.
How Do I Find Out Where They’re Registered?Wedding registry etiquette step #1: Locate the wedding registry. This should be relatively easy. If you’ve received a wedding invitation, a save the date, or an invite to a pre-wedding party like a shower or engagement party, check the invitation for a wedding website. If one is listed, you should find the registry information and links provided on the website. Not there? A simple Google search of their names may also turn up online registries, their page on a universal registry site like WeddingWire Registry, or their wedding website. If that fails, it’s absolutely okay to ask the couple where they’re registered — trust us, they won’t be offended that you want to buy them a gift! — or check with a close friend or family member to see if they know.
How Much Time Do I Have to Give a Wedding Gift?Wedding etiquette says you have a year from the wedding date to send a gift. That being said, the sooner you send a gift their way, the better. Most guests will send a gift one month before, or within a month from the big day.
Is It Okay to Veer Off the Registry?Yes, according to wedding registry etiquette for guests, it’s okay to shop off registry — under the right circumstances. If you know the bride or groom super well — we’re talking family member or best friend levels here — you can use your close connection to buy the happy couple something personal and special. But use your knowledge of the couple to your advantage, and only buy something you know will hold special value for them (a custom portrait, a gift certificate to a favorite restaurant, or a spa day, for instance). The other two times to shop off registry: If their registry is completely bought out or if you just can’t afford anything on their wish list. In both situations, take a deep look at their wedding registry to figure out their couple style and shop for something complementary to what they’ve already requested.
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