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Ah, the first look. It’s a relatively recent addition to the wedding ritual arsenal, but the practice of staging a semi-private meeting of the fiancés to check each other out before the wedding ceremony begins has quickly become a popular choice for some couples. Chances are, you you’ve seen some of the gorgeous images of couples meeting on their wedding day, sometimes with their backs to each other or appearing from opposite ends of a field.
Before you decide whether to try or nix the first look, consider the potential benefits and drawbacks of embracing this new tradition.
Pro: Get your tears out of the way before the ceremonyWe’re not guaranteeing that your wedding ceremony won’t feature more than a few weepy moments, but by meeting in advance of the ceremony, you’ll be chopping those moments down by at least one. Since many couples elect not to see each other the night before the wedding and decide to prepare for the wedding in separate rooms, the first look, whether it happens before the ceremony or as one is walking down the aisle, is often an emotional exchange full of sweet tears. By conducting this emotional moment away from your guests, you’ll still have the memory and photos, but it might save a more self-conscious groom or bride from tearing up in public.
Con: A first look might water down the experience of walking down the aisleMemorialized in songs, films, TV shows and even in our memories of others’ weddings, walking down the aisle to greet an emotional partner is something many an engaged person has looked forward to for years. While a pre-ceremony first loook certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t walk down the aisle, it might make the moment a bit less emotional, as you’ve seen your bride or groom already. And, for lots of engaged couples, there’s a lot to be said of a wedding ceremony that closely mirrors that of their parents and grandparents.
Pro: Enjoy a private moment before wedding frenzy commencesWhile your wedding is certainly an occasion you want to share with your closest friends and family, some might also want to take all the moments of quiet with your love the day might offer. A first look is definitely one of those moments. Beyond being a time to simply see your beloved, it’s an opportunity to say a few words, share a hug or exchange gifts. It can also be a minute to reflect on the day and the impending marriage without the well-meaning gaze or words of your guests.
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