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Your wedding guests are all going to tell you that they had a fantastic, amazing time at your wedding – and for the most part, that’s the truth. However, there are some things that can occur that will be mildly annoying to your nearest and dearest. You probably won’t hear about these issues, but they will impact your wedding guests’ memory of your big day. Fortunately, these are mostly things that brides and grooms can plan for in advance.
Here are the 10 missteps that will bug wedding guests the most.
Conflict with a big eventDo your research before setting a wedding date, and make sure that there are no conflicts on your potential big day. From the Super Bowl to the Academy Awards, there are several must-see events that at least some of your wedding guests will have an interest in watching live. While obviously the wedding of a loved one should take priority over these events, there will likely be some grumbling over the inopportune timing.
Timing issuesAvoid long gaps in time between your ceremony and reception, unless you have a plan on how to fill the time (we love the idea of giving your guests a trolley tour of your wedding city!). Guests are likely to be confused as to what to do, and may be cranky and low-energy by the time the reception rolls around. Or, even worse, they may resort to pre-reception drinking and arrive to the reception having overindulged.
Dinner served too lateEven if you had lots of tasty treats during cocktail hour, your guests will still want their main meal served in a timely fashion. The first course should be served no more than 30 to 45 minutes after the start of the reception, followed closely by the main course. Make sure that you are on the same page with your caterer and venue before the big day.
Long lines for the restroom or barBe sure that your venue has adequate facilities to accommodate your guests, who would rather not spend their evenings waiting in line. Make sure that the restroom areas are clearly marked and there are enough bartenders to keep service speedy – one bartender per 50 or 60 guests is recommended.
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Too many slow (or fast) songsOf course, you’ll want to play a lot of upbeat music – it’s a celebration, after all! But playing a few carefully-chosen wedding slow songs will provide a much-needed breather for your guests, and allow for older guests who might not be into the wild dancing to take a spin across the floor.
Speeches that are too long (or numerous)Toasts should be kept to a minimum, both in terms of number of speakers and length (two to three minutes each, please). Your guests will enjoy hearing from two or three VIPs, but any more may begin to feel tedious and everyone will start to lose interest (it’s not fun for the speaker either). Schedule the majority of your toasts for the rehearsal dinner, rather than the reception.
Not enough foodYou do not want a group of hangry wedding guests, do you? Make sure that your caterer has an accurate guest count, and will provide enough food to accommodate them – plus a little extra. Hosting a plated dinner and asking your guests to place their order on their RSVP card will ensure that everyone is served exactly what they asked for. Plentiful buffets will also allow guests to take as much as they’d like.
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