So we're less than two months out and everything has gone so smoothly, but now I feel like I'm really feeling the pressure and I feel like things are getting dramatic and my family and I are just getting into fights about little things. Does anyone else feel that way? How do you keep things chill? I want to remain flexible, but supportive.
Here's the recent fight: my sister's husband is very musically talented and he wanted to play music before and during our ceremony. A little risky because he's not a professional, but I'm excited about it. There is one song that is a duet, so my sister wanted to sing with him which I'm fine with. She's not a singer, but has a nice voice and they've been practicing together.
Now that we're talking about the processional line up with the wedding planner I tried reaching out to her about when she wants to go down the aisle or if she wants to be with her husband the whole time. But now she's not sure she wants to sing with her husband and I said ok well let me know. And she's like no we should all talk about it. And I didn't really feel like talking about it and made the mistake of saying I don't care what ends up happening, I just need to know the details and now she's really upset with me even though it wasn't my idea that she sings in the first place.
I know I'm definitely in the wrong about this whole thing, she's making all this effort to sing and she's a little uncomfortable and I should be more supportive, and saying I don't care is probably a slap in the face. I apologized and told her that I didn't mean that I didn't care, it was more that I was open to whatever she wants to do for the wedding. It's just that the wedding planner is asking for the processional lineup. I just struggle with saying things tactfully sometimes. Does anyone have that issue? What tips do you suggest? I just feel like there are all these decisions that fall on me the bride and I don't always have a good answer or I don't feel like deciding every detail. How do you delegate?