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Maid of Honor Sister Question

Kristi, on April 28, 2024 at 2:55 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
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Well, my sister, who I’ve always been close to is getting married. I slightly hurt because she asked both me and her best friend to both be her maid of honor. But now she has informed me that her best friend will walk in first with the best man and stand next to her during the ceremony. I was so painfully hurt by this even though I know these are all just silly traditions. I told her how I felt yesterday and she said she would switch it but now she’s back to her original plan as if we never talked about it. I don’t know if I should push it further and express further how I fell about it or if I should just go with her plan even though it doesn’t make any sense. My fear is that the day of the wedding, when emotions are high, it will really affect me. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Andrea, on April 29, 2024 at 8:09 PM
  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    Well sounds like you two are co-maids of honour. You can't both walk first, and I'm not sure why you're weighing this as some type of measurement of your importance in her life? I guess I don't understand why this affects you at all. You're her sister, you know she loves you, I would hope.

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  • Jasmine S.
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    So you're still a maid of honor, it's just a question of where you're going to stand? Someone has to walk first and be closer to her. I don't think this is a slight against you at all, and you shouldn't take it as one. Don't push her on this again, just enjoy the day.
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  • Cece
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    This may sound harsh, but I’m just going to say it…. it’s not about you. This is her wedding, her day. Your job is to support her. Definitely don’t bring it up again. Planning a wedding is incredibly stressful – don’t create more for her.
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    You’re being unreasonable. There is no slight involved in having co-MOH. As for walking first in the procession, what does it say that the bride walks last?


    If you’re saying she will have an obviously more prominent role ie holding flowers, adjusting a train, holding a ring, or giving the one toast or reading, then I suppose no one can tell you how to feel. Perhaps your sister is planning to divide those small, symbolic tasks. Don’t look for trouble.
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  • Andrea
    Rockstar January 2024
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    It’s her wedding. You’re supposed to be supporting her, not trying to use it as a competition to see who’s closer to your sister. Don’t bring it up again or you’re just going to drive a wedge between you and your sister.
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