We are getting ready to do our Invitations and we aren't sure what the proper etiquette is for a second marriage. Do I use my current last name or use my maiden name for the wording on the invitations?
I would go with however people know you. If most people know you by your current last name, use that. I don't know if there is any specific etiquette. If people know you both by your current and maiden names, go with whatever is your legal name.
If you feel uncomfortable using your last name (I'm guessing it's your first husband's last name?), you can always omit it entirely.
Mr. & Mrs. Bride Parents request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter, Lisa (Middle Name) to FH (middle name), son of Mr. & Mrs. Groom Parents.
I've even seen some people say:
The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of Lisa (Middle Name) and FH (middle) (last)
It's totally up to you!
There’s no real etiquette, just your preference, but I would use the name that people know you by. Our invitations only say our first and middle names, with our last names on the envelope only. Might be a good compromise if you’re not comfortable plastering your ex’s last name on it.
I go by my maiden name socially, but because my attorney forgot to include it in my final papers & I've been too lazy to deal with it since, I legally still have my exhusband's last name. I only use my legal last name at work, so most people know me by maiden name & so I used that on my invitations.
It’s FH and I second marriage too. we are using just our first names, alphabetical order. But our wedding is more casual/simple.(ceremony at park, resturant dinner, no dancing etc. only about 45 ppl max) And we are paying for it ourselves. No one is “giving me/us away”. Basically -we are doing what ever we darn well please. Invites have all the pertinent info on them.