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Invitation Etiquette

Lisa, on February 12, 2018 at 3:01 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
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We are getting ready to do our Invitations and we aren't sure what the proper etiquette is for a second marriage. Do I use my current last name or use my maiden name for the wording on the invitations?

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  • Audrey
    VIP June 2016
    Audrey ·
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    I would go with however people know you. If most people know you by your current last name, use that. I don't know if there is any specific etiquette. If people know you both by your current and maiden names, go with whatever is your legal name.

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  • M
    Super October 2018
    MaltedMilk ·
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    What is your name? Use that - your name.

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  • FutureMrsR
    VIP May 2018
    FutureMrsR ·
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    If you feel uncomfortable using your last name (I'm guessing it's your first husband's last name?), you can always omit it entirely.

    Mr. & Mrs. Bride Parents
    request the honor of your presence
    at the wedding of their daughter,
    Lisa (Middle Name)
    to
    FH (middle name),
    son of Mr. & Mrs. Groom Parents.

    I've even seen some people say:

    The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of
    Lisa (Middle Name)
    and
    FH (middle) (last)

    It's totally up to you!

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  • rica
    VIP September 2018
    rica ·
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    There’s no real etiquette, just your preference, but I would use the name that people know you by. Our invitations only say our first and middle names, with our last names on the envelope only. Might be a good compromise if you’re not comfortable plastering your ex’s last name on it.
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  • Powers2
    Master April 2018
    Powers2 ·
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    I used my current name (which is still my ex husbands last name). That is what I go by and how everyone knows me.

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  • M
    Super October 2018
    MaltedMilk ·
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    Then that is the one you should use - if you sent them out with your maiden name people wold be asking and questioning if you changed your name back.

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  • Lacy
    Super December 2018
    Lacy ·
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    I still have my ex's last name too and it's what people know me by so it's what I'm putting on the invite.
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  • lindseybee89
    Expert June 2018
    lindseybee89 ·
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    We used "the future mr and mrs ____"

    im sure that will work in your case too

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  • Nikki
    Super May 2018
    Nikki ·
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    I go by my maiden name socially, but because my attorney forgot to include it in my final papers & I've been too lazy to deal with it since, I legally still have my exhusband's last name. I only use my legal last name at work, so most people know me by maiden name & so I used that on my invitations.

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  • F
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Fidel ·
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    Maiden name I say...
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  • 2
    Expert July 2018
    2ndtime1stwedding ·
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    It’s FH and I second marriage too.
    we are using just our first names, alphabetical order.
    But our wedding is more casual/simple.(ceremony at park, resturant dinner, no dancing etc. only about 45 ppl max)
    And we are paying for it ourselves.
    No one is “giving me/us away”.
    Basically -we are doing what ever we darn well please.
    Invites have all the pertinent info on them.
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