Hello Brides! My fiancé and I have decided that we do not want kids at our wedding. We have chosen Key West, a tropical, party destination as our wedding location. It’s a “destination wedding” in our minds because although we live near the Keys, almost all of our guests will be flying in from out-of-state.
As news of our wedding plans started to spread, we’ve heard our future guests comment on what a “great family vacation opportunity” this would be....We have NOT even sent out any Save-The-Dates yet, and we’re also dealing with a lot of people (mostly distant family) assuming they’re invited - but that’s another issue all together. We didn’t nip any “kids” comments in the butt immediately because we hadn’t yet made a decision.
Well, now we’ve made the decision that we do NOT want kids to attend the wedding. But our etiquette questions are:
Is it okay to invite a couple (that has kids) to a destination, out-of-state wedding and rightfully expect them not to bring them?
If they do bring them to enjoy a family beach vacation, is it justified to ask them to have a babysitter for the night of our wedding?
We were considering hiring a group babysitter ourselves, but we also didn’t want that to seem like a free-for-all invitation to bring your children because really - I may sound bratty here, but - it’s Key West, a party town, we are spending a big ticket $$$ for our guests to enjoy some island drinking and adult festivities. We really don’t want to have kids at any of our events like the Rehearsal Dinner and Farewell Brunch because it’ll change the overall dynamic of the wedding.
Looking for some straight up honesty please! We’re torn over this.