My dad offered to host a cigar bar at our wedding reception. Cigars have played a big part in our family events for a very long time and FH and I had already planned on including one when my dad offered to pay for it. Now FMIL, whom I love to death, is saying that we need to offer something like a candy bar for those who don't smoke. We are having candy cigars included in addition to the real cigars. After discussing it we've decided that a candy bar really isn't something we're interested in doing, we have a fairly large number of kids on our guest list ( we will be having a kids activity table) and it just seems like a recipe for disaster to us but FMIL just will not let this go. Are we being unreasonable? Do we need to figure out another extra for nonsmoking guests?