My FH and I are at the point in our wedding planning where it's time to hash out the details. We pretty much agree on everything we want, except for one thing - he really likes being in the spotlight, and I really don't. Our first dance is definitely a place where this is coming up. The song he wants is more than five minutes long, I want to find a song a loooot shorter. He wants to dance the whole song by ourselves, I want to cut it short or invite others to dance with us (maybe not the wedding party in pairs, since they don't know each other well).
I've heard mixed opinions about dancing to the whole song - some people say to only dance to the first minute or so, but I actually hadn't heard of that until I started reading these forms! Anyhow, I think I might be hard-pressed to talk him into that. I would like it if we invited everyone (or maybe couples) to join us to dance after the first minute or so, but when I considered that I forgot about the mother/son father/daughter dances also; I feel we can't ask guests to get on the floor and then stop, twice. Maybe my father/daughter dance can be with everyone? But I don't think my FH and FMIL would want that for their dance, and it might be weird to do two different things.
Honestly, dancing is just something I'm incredibly self-concious of doing in front of other people, especially so many poeple and *especially* especially my family. If it didn't come off as an insult to my FH and Dad, I would be skipping it alltogether. It gives me so much anxiety to think about and in some ways it's an ettiquette minefield. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
