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Is it ok to not have a rehearsal dinner?
We are having the ceremony & reception in one place & they said it would be okay for us to come in & rehearse during the week (excluding Fri b/c other parties are booked). We are planning to do that b/c a rehearsal is absolutely necessary but we can't afford a dinner to follow-we can barely afford this wedding & no 1 has offered to help. Can we just do without it?
BTW sorry about all the questions LOL!

Married: 02/14/2009
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Posted On: Oct 6, 2008 at 1:00 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 09/12/2009
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Oct 06, 2008 at 9:06 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I feel that a rehearsal dinner is not necessarily necessary but something you should definitely do ... it is a way of getting everyone together one last time before the wedding and especially for THANKING all of the people who are in your wedding for everything they have done for you or to help you... you dont necessarily have to go OUT somewhere and spend mucho money on the dinner though... you can just have a small appetizer party or make everything yourself in bulk or get a couple party platters from Costco... I understand money contstraints and how your wedding can become very expensive... but I do feel this is one part that is not necessarily about you, but about the people who have gone out of their way to be a part of your day, and they deserve that too...

Married: 06/13/2009
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Oct 06, 2008 at 10:06 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I personally think it is very important because it is the time to give the bridal party and each set of parents their gifts. Its also a way of blowing off a little steam before the wedding. You don't have to go super expensive. You can limit it to just the people in the bridal party and the parents then make stuff yourself. Have your sister and best friend help, and the other bridesmaids if you can. Look online for some inexpensive mass recipies. Good luck!
Oct 06, 2008 at 10:24 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's nice to have a rehearsal dinner but if you can't afford it, you just can't afford it. It doesn't have to be a huge gathering with lots of food, you could simply invite the bridal party and parents to the house and make a simple dinner with wine.

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Oct 06, 2008 at 11:33 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
As a wedding planner, I always have to think of economical ways for brides to have memorable events. Don't stress over the rehearsal dinner. Make sure that everyone knows that you appreciate them by having them over for appetizers and non-alcoholic drinks after the rehearsal. You can give them give them thank you cards and each a picture of you and your fiance in small inexpensive picture frames. Write a personal note in each person's card and I'm sure they will each appreciate the time you took to wrtie your personal thoughts to them. If you can't afford appetizers or don't have the room at your place, see if a fmaily member would mind hosting it, or just hand out the cards and gifts at the rehearsal. I'm sure they will all understand if you don't have a dinner.

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Married: 03/21/2009
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Oct 06, 2008 at 12:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
No a rehearshal dinner is not neccessary but if you just want a way to get everybody together than maybe you can try what we are doing because we are having our rehearshal and bachelor/bachelorette the night before there is really no time for the dinner. So 2 weeks before the wedding we are getting everyone in the bridal party, coordinators plus the parents together at our house to get a chance to meet,eat and have a good time.We have even asked them to bring their day of wedding dates/spouses so that they too will get a chance to meet the other dates/spouses(since I have a reserved table for them at the reception) and not have to feel left out the day of.We will be giving them their gifts.As well as going over any info that we need to about the day of.And since there will not be a rehearshal that day we cant call it a rehearshal dinner.So we just refer to it as the MEET & GREET.It's not going to be anything formal just our way of saying thanks without spending a whole lot either.

Married: 05/23/2009
Oct 06, 2008 at 4:59 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't think that the dinner is necessary. I also have that dilemna because my wedding and reception is in the same place. Who wants to eat there two days in a row? So what I considered was to bring something small or desserts. You want to have some type of food between rehearsing- just don't go overboard.
Oct 06, 2008 at 8:34 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It is perfectly fine not to have a rehearsal dinner. I know several people that have had one and others haven't. It's honestly just an extra expense that really isn't needed.

Married: 06/20/2009
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Oct 07, 2008 at 3:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My fiance and I are in a similar situation. We are footing our own wedding bill so things are starting to add up. When our church found out that we couldn't afford to have a rehearsal dinner (we were going to get a bunch of pizzas for everyone instead) they volunteered to "pot-luck" it for us. Apparently, it is very traditional to have one and is the "proper" way to thank everyone in the wedding party, especially your parents for having raised you so well, etc.

It wasn't a big deal to me ( so I feel you), but apparently it would be a big deal if we didn't have one. Anyway, I said all that to say, maybe your family "parents of the bride/groom" can pot-luck it for you or maybe you can ask everyone to bring a small dish, or maybe you can catch one of those $5 pizza deals and get those. I'm not sure if any of this will be much help. But I hope it gives you some ideas of what can be done. It will all work out in the end. You still have a couple months.

Godd Luck!

Married: 09/05/2009
Oct 07, 2008 at 5:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I would say that its your wedding you do what you want or can do. I agree with the poster that said its nice to have to give the parents and bridesmaids their gifts and stuff. So what i would say is send out a little note to your attendants saying that it isnt in your budget to have a rehersal dinner for everyone, but if they would like to meet you for dinner at a resturant then that would be good. That way you can still give out the gifts and everything and not have to pay for everyone to eat. Or another idea ive heard of is have a sort of pot luck thing. Have everyone bring a dish and you will have plenty of food! That way you will only have to provide a dish or two. Good luck :)

Reyna (Renee')

Oct 13, 2008 at 11:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You can do it yourself, just make sure it in not too elaborate. Snacks and soda, tray of sandwiches from walmart if you do not cook. chicken fingers, beer a cook out. Ask what they would like they will act silly a first but then they will say nothing because they love you and what ever you make will be fine. GOOD LUCK

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