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Is it improper to mail wedding invitations 3 months in advance?
I would like to mail my invitations by December 8th, 2007 and my wedding is March 8,2008. The reasons I want to mail them so early are 1)About 40% of the guests will be traveling from Great Britain to California,USA, so I want to give them plenty of time to schedule flights. 2)I don't want to be in the middle of the Christmas card mail rush.

Married: 03/08/2008
Posted On: Dec 5, 2007 at 5:41 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 11/29/2008
Dec 05, 2007 at 6:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Helo Maureen,
Congratulations. To answer your are suppose to mail invitations 2 months before the wedding. This means you should be looking at early January. The rush is then over. Is there anyone that could inform the Great Britain guests by word of mouth of the arrangements so they can begin looking for flights. Another thought... Put someone in charge of locating flights for a certain day. They can then e-mail or call people with the info they found. Just a thought. In addition, I do not think it is improper BUT you want peopleto keep your special day fresh in thier head. The closer to the date they recieve the invite the more likely they'll remember. Also you don't want any RSVP to get lost on your end or thiers. Human Nature ... I have time. But then it's forgotten.

Sorry my thouhgts are a little all over.
Good Luck
Dec 05, 2007 at 7:55 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hi Maureen,
Although most people mail their invitations about six to eight weeks before the wedding I think it is fine to mail three months in advance so that people can make plans especially people coming so far away.
Good luck with everything!!!
Donna@precious moments

Married: 09/06/2008
Dec 06, 2007 at 11:47 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Sure, why not? I think you have plenty of great reasons to ship them out a little early and your guests will probably appreciate the extra time they have to make their travel arrangements.

Married: 07/06/2007
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Dec 06, 2007 at 8:53 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You can, but it would be better to send save the date cards ASAP! Just because people don't RSVP right away they post pone it a bit, so people would maybe forget to RSVP or may lose the response card. But, if you do have your guest respond sooner as well too. I would first send out the save the date cards though if you can.

Married: 06/06/2008
Dec 13, 2007 at 2:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I would recommend save the date magnets. That way people can put them on their fridge, but don't have to have a big bulky invitation up for 3 months. Unless cost is an issue, I would go with save the dates, those are awesome reminders and can be really in-expensive if you do them yourself!

Married: 05/23/2008
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Dec 13, 2007 at 6:44 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think that is absolutely fine. If you are worried about people losing them though, you should go with Save the Date notes and request an RSVP with that.

My fiancé and I are having a formal event in May and are requiring an answer by February so that we can send invitations to our second list of people to fill the slots if we can without offending them by making it obvious they are second choices.

I think it's better for you and for your guests to do it as early as possible. If they know 2 months out, then they will know 3 months out. Saying that 2 months is a cap is just ridiculous IMHO. Not to mention that it works out great if you are limited on how many people you are inviting.

Married: 04/11/2008
Dec 14, 2007 at 1:20 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hi Maureen! I have no idea of this is proper etiquette... but we are having a destination wedding so I actually set the invites four months in advance. We referenced a wedding website on the invites so that everyone could rsvp electronically as well as the paper rsvp. The wedding website also had a lot more information so people don't have to keep hold of the invite. We thought it was more important that they get the info, and I didn't do save the dates in addition to the invite. Anyways, just a thought! Congratulations and good luck!

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