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Invitation Wording Stress- Split Family- Stubborn Parents.. Help!
So I personally would love for our invitation to say "Together with their families.." It is the easiest way to cover everyone, looks the simplest, and puts the bride and groom front and center. But pitching that idea to my parents did not go over well... at all. Our wedding will be paid 40% by my FH and I, 40% by my parents, and 20% by the grooms family (split three ways due to divorces). With that said, it is important to me to mention everyone. My dad feels that since his contribution is significant that his name should be on the invitation, and should be first due to tradition.

He has been good so far about letting us decide what we want to do- but is really putting his foot down on this and it bothers me. Especially since my FH and I told him in the begining that we would pay for everything and he demanded to contribute... we didn't ask for his money!!

Is it wrong for me to put my foot down on the "Together line.."? Is it worth fighting?

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Posted On: Jun 8, 2010 at 10:42 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 2+ years ago
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Jun 08, 2010 at 11:40 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Im using the together line. Other wise I would have two many ppls names on my invite. and this way no one is offended so no its not wrong to put your foot down

Stephonie A Schmitz

SAO Dzynz, Inc
Jun 09, 2010 at 12:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have worked with several brides with this issue, and the easiest way to include everyone without flooding the invitation with names, is to go with the Together Line... I think you are going about it the best way you can :) Good luck!

Married: 08/21/2010
Jun 09, 2010 at 3:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The wording of the invitation is not about who is paying how much.... it's about YOU!!! I'd go with "together with..." and remind them all that it's your wedding and while you thank them for helping, it's about you and your FH, not them.

The Wedding Invitation Specialist

The Invitation Place
Jun 09, 2010 at 5:52 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I would definitely go with the Together line. There's nothing more unappealing than an invitation that tends to look like the beginning of a directory of some kind. If your parents were footing 100% or even 80% of the bill I would say you need to give in but not on this one. Order Programs & be sure to list everyone on that - you can use that as an "instead of...." when approaching your dad. This shouldn't be about recognition, especially when you did not ask for his contribution. I hope it goes well for you.
Jun 09, 2010 at 5:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you choose to use all parents names, there are traditional ways of doing this. It can, however, be quite a lot to fit on a small invitation. Whomever's parents are divorced would be listed separately as
Mr. and Mrs. Tom Jones
Ms. Amy Smith (you can also insert step-parents here if both couples have remarried)
request the pleasure of your company (honor of your presence)
at the marriage of their daughter
{your name}
{FH Name}
son of Mr. and Mrs. Dean Johnson

wordings vary on family situation.
Hope this helps.

Moments of Magic

Moments of Magic
Jun 09, 2010 at 7:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with King Designs. Remember that this is a rite of passage for your father, he has been thinking about this longer than you have! (Since the day you were born.) On your wedding won't give a rat's ass (excuse me!) how your invitations were worded. Give him his due, and your groom's parents as well. The day, while it is your wedding day, really isn't ALL about you! It's about them too!

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Jun 12, 2010 at 4:04 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'd personally do together with their families. It looks cleaner. It's your wedding day..stomp that foot down if you have to ;-)

Married: 08/22/2010
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Jun 13, 2010 at 3:44 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
stomp that foot chica!!

Married: 08/13/2010
Jun 17, 2010 at 12:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Whether your parents like each other or not they are all important to you two and that is what should matter. Use the together with their families, that includes everyone. You cant put on the invitations your parents, his paretns, your stepparents, their stepparents, their partners.....Your parents should be able to understand this.

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