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How can I honor my father, who passed away, at my wedding

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Oct 05, 2009 at 12:16 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My Aunt passed shortly before my daughter's Sweet 16. She wanted to honor my aunt at her party. So we designated a special seat for my aunt by placing a ribbon over the chair and placed a card with my aunts name on it and a rose on the seat. It was a special way to remember that she was there watching over us.


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Oct 05, 2009 at 3:41 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I once had a bride that wanted to have a memory table that double as the guest sign in table, with a framed picture and a lit candle,so every guest that sign in could see the picture, knowing they were thinking of that person too.


Oct 05, 2009 at 3:45 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've done a silent dance. Its a special song for the loved one before or after father/ daughter dance. You can do a prayer with the song , or just an announcement in who the song is dedicated to.
Oct 05, 2009 at 9:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I danced with my father's brother to a song dedicated to my father. I also set single wrapped roses and tulle on the chairs my parents would have sat in during the ceremony and used them later on the cake display table.
Also the officiant said a beautiful, short prayer.

Oct 05, 2009 at 11:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have written a post on honoring loved ones, please take a look. I don't believe I included picking one of his favorite songs to dance to or to be performed by someone

Hope you are able to find something very special for your Dad.

Oct 06, 2009 at 3:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The father of one of our clients had passed away from Cancer, but during his period of illness, he wrote a daily journal to his daughter, reminding her of their time together during her childhood and, in a humorous way, the grief she had caused him during her teenage years and growing up. Words of wisdom for her future days and the love he had for his grandchildren whom he was never going to see.

The groom, knowing that his bride to be wanted to honor her father so much, put together a video montage of home videos and pictures of his bride and her father during which, he stood up and read himself the selected lines from his late father in law's journal, always ending each phrase "I promise you sir, she is my queen, my heart, my soul."

You couldn't find a dry eye in the whole reception hall, the bride's face spoke volumes of her love to her groom for this wonderful gesture and it was such a lovely way to honor both the father of the bride as well as her whole family.

All the best!
Oct 06, 2009 at 6:40 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We were the photographers at a wedding where one seat was reserved in the fron rowe (where your fathewr would have been sitting) with a bouquet and a name card to honor him. We had another wedding where they had two candles on table (opposite side of their unity candles). Once the bride walked down the isle, the groom and bride proceeded to the candles (one for his mon and one for her dad) and they both lighted the candles in their memory and honor.
Oct 06, 2009 at 8:33 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There are a couple ways to honor your father at your wedding. When it comes to a wedding ceremony, honoring your mother and father, especially when they have passed, says everything about your love for them and the vital role they played in your life.

In my ceremonies (see, ceremony samples) there is a time when we mention those family members (parents, siblings, or grandparents) who have passed. There is usually a remembrance table somewhere close by with their pictures.

Second, when you are brought in by a brother, uncle, mother or whomever in place of your father, when you arrive at the altar and are presented, you also place a rose on the empty seat where you father would have been sitting. When done slowly, it is a strong statement of respect.

Third, one or both of the readings in the ceremony can be dedicated to your father, a favorite author or poem of your fathers, or read by a friend of your fathers.

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Oct 08, 2009 at 1:31 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
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Oct 09, 2009 at 5:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Consider framing a small photo of your father, and make it a part of your bouquet. I've seen it done where the photo frame was actually "dangling" from the bouquet with beautiful ribbons. You could probably make the frame with felt and ribbon...about 1 by 2 inches...or something like that. I once saw a bride whose father had past wear his wedding ring on her thumb during the wedding. To me, both of these ideas actually include your father in the wedding.
Oct 09, 2009 at 11:47 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Since writing is my forte, I do a lot of creative writing for my brides/clients. I have original poems, memorial tributes, and several ideas for you to consider. Just email me ( or go to my website and contact me...I'm happy to share a few ideas with you that I've done for others or create a new one for you. It's a wonderful way to honor those we love who have passed on. Also, another idea would be for you to do a little card for each guest, stating something like "After thoughtful consideration, in lieu of a traditional wedding favor, we have decided to honor my father, (his name), by making a donation in your name to his favorite ...(charity or whatever). We thank you for sharing our special day with us and for honoring this special man." Just another thought. Best wishes.
Oct 10, 2009 at 7:06 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
We did a wedding this summer where the groom had the waiters bring out shot glasses for everyone containing the bride's late father's favorite shot. They made him part of the celebration in a way which I think would have made him smile.

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