Which wedding traditions are you ditching?

I am doing NONE of those things except I am dancing with my dad.

Since this is a second wedding for both of us we are doing away with a lot of the traditional customs. I will be having my son walk me down the aisle, since my dad passed. I am carrying a locket tied to my bouquet with his picture. We will do the first dance and cut the cake but that's about it; no garter, or bouquet toss. We want this to be more of a celebration/party.

Sleeping separately the night before the wedding?

Yes. We’ll be sleeping separately the night before. He got me & my ladies a hotel 🏨 room.

Something old, new, borrowed, and blue?

Yes!

Wearing a veil?

Nope 👎🏾

Father escorting you down the aisle?

Yes!

Bride standing on the left side?

I didn’t even know this was a thing 🤨

Traditional wedding party?

Yeah.

Parent dances?

Yes.

The bouquet toss?

Nope 👎🏾

The garter toss?

Nope 👎🏾

The cake cutting?

Yes!

Carrying over the threshold?

Uhhh, I don’t know 🤷🏽‍♀️

Registering for china?

Nope 👎🏾

Sleeping separately the night before the wedding?

We are... I figured it would give him time to spend at the hotel with his family and socialize and it gives me time to relax and hang out with my girls at another hotel.

Something old, new, borrowed, and blue?

No

Wearing a veil?

No

Father escorting you down the aisle?

My father passed away when I was 10, so unfortunately no. My godfather who's been in my life for 33 years, will be walking me down the aisle.

Bride standing on the left side?

This is a thing?

Traditional wedding party?

Yes kind of; only a MOH and BM

Parent dances?

Yes

The bouquet toss?

No

The garter toss?

No

The cake cutting?

Yes, per my mother's request.... sometimes it's better to keep the peace.

Carrying over the threshold?

No

Registering for china?

No

We are doing all of the traditional wedding customs except for the last two in the list.

None of these are relevant because I'm having an indian wedding. It would be nice if this website was significantly more culturally responsive.

So I’m ditching the following:
- something old and something borrowed
- registering for china

Some are debatable still:
- bride on the left side is the plan for now but it could change if the position of the sun hits me straight in the eyes.
- carrying over threshold? I don’t know this is one of those things you don’t plan for. It comes natural

I guess we are more traditional than I thought

Both of my parents are walking me down the aisle, no idea which side I will stand on, my wedding party is missing half of the groomsmen, I really don’t want to do solo parent dances I would much prefer to just dance with my dad during a random slow song while everyone else is dancing, and I have some china but I’m not registering for any more because I don’t think I’ll ever use it. So I’m following about half!

I feel like some of our wedding will be traditional but others will not be.. we are Eloping to the Caribbean for a July 4th wedding with only my kids and his. It’s both our second marriages so we don’t want a big ceremony with lots of guests. I will not be wearing a veil, my 8 and 9 year old daughters are walking me down the “aisle”, no traditional wedding party, no bouquet or garter throwing, we will cut a cake, we haven’t discussed if we will be staying the night together the night before, I will be on the left, no bridal showers, no bachelorette party, no registering for China.

Sleeping separately the night before the wedding?

Yes, but mostly because I’ll sleep better without his snoring. 😋

Something old, new, borrowed, and blue?

Yes!

Wearing a veil?

Yes, cathedral length

Father escorting you down the aisle?

Yes, I’m lucky enough to still have him in my life.

Bride standing on the left side?

Yes...

Traditional wedding party?

I have two bridesmen, but other than that pretty traditional

Parent dances?

Yes

The bouquet toss?

Yes

The garter toss?

Yes

The cake cutting?

Yes

Carrying over the threshold?

If he can lift me... 🐄

Registering for china?

Absolutely!! Kate Spade Larabee

Sleeping separately the night before the wedding? Yes I think we are

Something old, new, borrowed, and blue? Maybe I don’t know yet

Wearing a veil? Haven’t decided but I’m leaning towards no

Father escorting you down the aisle? Yes

Bride standing on the left side? Yes

Traditional wedding party? I think so

Parent dances? Yes

The bouquet toss? Yes

The garter toss? Yes

The cake cutting? Sorta we are doing who gets the cake but everyone else is getting something else

Carrying over the threshold? Probably not

Registering for china? No don’t have room plus I don’t need our kids breaking it

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So sweet that your son is escorting you down the aisle!! I love the idea of having your dad's picture on the bouquet, a great way to have him there with you on the wedding day!

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That's awesome, Noella!! Have you decided on songs for the parent dances yet?

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Hi Priya! Are you hosting the wedding here or in India? We have a planning website specifically for India as well great resources about Indian Wedding Traditions! We'd love to hear what you're doing!

Sleeping separately the night before the wedding?

Nope. I want to wake up to my man on our wedding day. But to be honest I might be so anxious who knows if I will really sleep lol
Something old, new, borrowed, and blue?
Nope
Wearing a veil?
Yes. I got a cathedral one and it’s beautiful!
Father escorting you down the aisle?
Yes
Bride standing on the left side?
Um idk this doesn’t matter ima just stand wherever I’m told. I didn’t even know this was a tradition lol

Traditional wedding party?

Yes!
Parent dances?
Yes

The bouquet toss?

Yes
The garter toss?
Yes

The cake cutting?

Yes
Carrying over the threshold?
Lol probably not.... but who knows

Registering for china?

No it’s unnecesary

We're doing most of these! Ditching the garter toss and bouquet toss, probably, as well as the carrying over the threshold.

Mother/ Son dance:
My Wish -Rascal Flatts

Father/daughter:
Father and Daughter -Paul Simon

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Hi Angelica! I think its a pretty common theme of people skipping the garter toss! Will you be incorporating any other fun ways to engage with your guests during the reception?

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Awww, those are both such amazing song choices Noella! Do you have any special connection to those songs?

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Hi Tiara! That is so sweet that you will be together on the morning of your wedding day! It sounds like you will still be incorporating many of the typical wedding traditions! Will you be having any surprises or family traditions at your wedding as well?