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Are you ditching the traditional wedding party?

Rebecca, on January 15, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Planning 0 100
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Are you saying goodbye to the old traditional wedding party? Or are you mixing it up with uneven sides, two MOHs (or none), or skipping the flower girl and ring bearer? Will you have a man of honor instead of a maid of honor? A best woman instead of a best man?

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride
    Ditched it. No WP.
  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

    We had uneven sides (more groomsmen than bridesmaids), no flower girl or ring bearer, and I had both a matron of honor and a maid of honor!

    And my husband's best man was his dad! Apparently that is a more popular tradition in the south, but it was the first time I'd seen it!

  • Gloria
    Super March 2019
    We are staying traditional I have seven girls and he has seven Guys We have a flower girl 馃懅 and a ring bearer.A maid of honor and a best man
  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019

    I just wanted our kids (we are a blended family) as our wedding party, but FH wanted groomsmen. Therefore, we are having both. We each have 4 bridesmaids and groomsmen, two of our kids and niece/nephew are jr.bridesmaids and groomsmen, and 2 of our kids are flower girls. No ring bearer!

  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Ditched the wedding party. Just didnt want to deal with it. My 9yr old daughter will walk down the asile and stand with me long enough for me to pass my bouquet to and then she will have a seat. She will come back up at the end and place our broom for jumping the broom.
  • M&M Bride
    Super September 2018
    M&M Bride

    We had uneven sides, and I had a maid and man of honor.

  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018

    We had two people each.

  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    We have no women in the wedding party at all. My brother is my man of honor and my best friend is my bridesman. We don't have a flower girl but our nephew might be our ring bearer if his family is able to come to the wedding. Right now we have even sides but one of FH's groomsmen might not be able to make the wedding (ring bearers father) for a very good reason.
  • Tiffany
    Dedicated July 2019
    I guess ours is non traditional. We have uneven bridesmaids and groomsmen (he has more) no ring bearer or flower girl and our children will be Jr. bridesmaids and Jr. groomsmen. For those of you who have an uneven number what are you doing?
  • Jen
    Super May 2018

    We had uneven sides. I had one more bridesmaid then he did groomsmen and we skipped the flower girl and ring bearer.

  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
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    That's great, M&M Bride! How many were on each side?

  • Peggy
    Master November 2019
    I鈥檓 having a normal wedding party except my brother will be a bridesman
  • M&M Bride
    Super September 2018
    M&M Bride

    I had 9 on my side, he had 8 on his side, a junior bridesmaid, a junior groomsmen, three flower girls, two ring bearers, and a partridge in a pear tree. We wanted everyone to feel included!

  • S
    Dedicated May 2020
    No wedding party, don鈥檛 need it, saved money and stress!
  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    We went very traditional with the wedding party. An even 5 on each side as well as a ring bearer and two flower girls!
  • Rebecca
    Master October 2025
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    Dying laughing at the partridge and a pear tree! That'd be a pretty awesome wedding party

  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated September 2019

    We're having an uneven wedding party. We also don't know any young children so we skipped the flower girl and ring bearer.

  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020

    We are going semi-untraditional. We have even sides, but I have a matron of honor and a maid of honor and one bridesmaid. FH has a best woman, and two groomsmen. One flower girl, one ring bearer.

  • Lafuturase帽ora
    Devoted April 2019

    We're having a wedding party, a little untraditional with 2 best men, 1 matron and 1 maid of honor, and then 3 bridesmaids.

  • Katherine
    Expert July 2019

    My brother doesn't know this yet... but I'm going to ask him to be the man of honor. Other than that we're keeping it fairly traditional.

    I don't know if it's breaking tradition to have a groomsman or bridesmaid who is married (I see that a lot so it doesn't seem like "breaking" a tradition per se) but we're doing that too!

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