Stop asking for money (Rant!)

If your head literally exploded...you should get to the ER. Stat.

I'm not meaning this in an ignorant or smart-ass way AT ALL, I'm simply curious - what's your view on the honeymoon registry sites?

Lol @kelly

ditto tho i agree!

Your head literally exploded? That doesn't sound good.

I think they're fine as long as it's not the only registry. Some people just don't like to give money- they like to give gifts. So a registry for a honeymoon and a registry at a department store for wedding pic frames and what-not is perfect.

Great Aunt Gertrude may want to run out to Macys and buy you a photo album or something. So just let the old-biddie go and do it

Thank you Jessica. You're a voice of reason in a noisy, rude conversation.

I hate the honeymoon registry sites too. And the sites to register for cash. And the sites to register for vendors too, even though it might help me.....

It't tacky, plain and simple.

If I register for gift cards, that's okay though, right? I would be the happiest girl in the world if I was stocked up with Starbucks and gas cards...

...I'm kidding, kinda.

I have a honeymoon only registry. Nothing wrong with it. I've been married for forever and have 3 kids, trust me.... if we want a picture frame, towels or bedding... WE GET IT or already HAVE IT. Is it kinda tacky to be like.. Cash only please...? yea it is! But the HM registries... nothing wrong with those. WTH would i do with more HOUSEWARE CRAP!??!?! If someone chooses to get us anything at all, I'd be grateful but some people truly dont know what to get you. That gives 'em ideas.

We traditionally only receive money. I come from a big Italian family and thats all they give. I do not have to ask, they just give it.

I guess I am tacky...

I know I'm going to probably get fack for this, sorry I'm not TRYING to start anything here, honest, Sabrina, but "Houseware crap" EEK, these people aka your guests are buying you something they think is thoughtful, and you call it crap. Not nice If you don't like the gift or you already have it, then try and return it.

I agree Jessica!! FH and I are 22 and 23 (well, my bday is next month lol) and we are paying for the wedding ourselves. We have a budget and we're saving up for it. It's our marriage, so we are paying for the celebration. After looking at a bunch of different wedding sites, I found out that you can always plan a wonderful celebration on any budget. Even if someone just went to the courthouse with family and a few friends, and went out to dinner after, it could still be a glamorous wedding! I like the honeymoon registries because a trip is always a great gift! Especially if a couple already has everything they need, like Sabrina said. Some people just feel like they have a sense of entitlement, and that is NOT the case. I would be pissed if someone asked me for cash only or to make a donation to their wedding. I know it's a recession, but come on now, just get creative!

I can't figure out how you'er typing if your head exploded....have you had that checked out yet?

So just so I'm clear - You're totally against asking for cash....BUT asking for cash is OK as long as you ALSO register for gifties? makes sense....................

You are tacky if you ask for money. Not if it is voluntarily given to you by some tradition.

Logic is hard.

What do you think about the "money dance?"

While there are circumstances in which it's good to spread word to guests -- due to moving long-distance, or being in the military, or something similar, you just can't take many tangible things with you -- that couple would really prefer monetary gifts, in most cases I feel like asking for money as a gift is like sending your guests a bill. Ick.

So, we'd appreciate money most but registered for as much as we could think of. It's not enough to cover every guest, we don't think, but those who don't want to give monetary gifts have plenty of options that range from $5 to about $100. FH thinks his family will give money; I bet mine goes for the registry.

I also liked that we used a universal registry, yourweddingpresents.com, so guests can comparison shop and easily buy things wherever they want, at the best price, and still easily check it off the registry.

@ Phyllisann~me too! Haha this is one of the few times I've really loved being Korean (long story short, I did NOT grow up around a lot of asians in my hometown so I used to have a huge identity crisis). It's customary for most asians to just show up with cash to most events that they know COST a lot of money, such as funerals, weddings, etc.

My mom actually told me NOT to set up a gift registry (which, btw, is ALSO rude to mention apparently based on all the etiquette rules I've been reading...if they ask for it, it's okay, but if not, then you're not supposed to bring it up???) because she did not want my guests to get the "wrong idea" that I would prefer a present over cash, but I told her I was setting one up as a courtesy for the non-Asian guests who were coming.

Thanks Miya for clearing that up.

I'm with you, Sabrina - Although I constantly say FH, we are already legally married and have been since 2003 - we split for several years without legally divorcing, reunited and are getting remarried. We're already well established and everyone knows that - I hate the idea of saying, "Well no, please don't go buy me said gift, just write me a check." Hell no would I say that and quite frankly, I feel slightly uncomfortable directing someone to our honeymoon site, BUT we have two small children and our honeymoon will be a familymoon to Disney so that we can have a "fresh start" as an entire family - so in my case, I feel like it's my best option for a honeymoon registry.

Celia, tell us how you really feel. JK, everyone is certainly entitled to their own opinion and I respect yours.

I think the money dance thing falls in the same lines as asking for cash. Its super awkward if its not normal for your family. we arent doing it

The apron dance is an old polish tradition that's migrated here- it's traditionally done to give the couple a little spending money for their honeymoon. It's cute, and it's acceptable to most anyone I've met.

Look... everyone knows you want money. Who doesn't want money??? You don't have to tell them.

Some people just can't throw down $100.00 on a whim. That's why registries typically include gifts that range in prices.