Sex in our vows?

Julie, your FH should see a dr to make sure there is not a physical problem.

Then the 2 of you should have premarital counseling.

We've been married almost 25 years and sex changes over time. But, our love stays constant.

I think this is totally tacky. How can you put something so personal into your marriage vows? .... Vows are meant to pledge your love and affection to each other. Not how many times a week you will have sex.

I think if this is your biggest concern in your vows then you might want to take a closer look at your love and think twice about it.

But an answer to you question. 100% not. Your guest will think your a B**ch for stating that in your vows.

Labake, I am glad I could give you a chuckle. : )

In all seriousness, I think putting something like that in your vows, cheapens your vows. I think this is would be more appropriately placed in a pre-nup.

Julie is MIA now... O____o;;

Wow.....is this still going?

Usually the OP is in the thread defending their position, telling everybody off, or the thread has disappeared by now.

Vewwy intewesting.

Omg your pre nup? Yeah that is just as bad. Have you seen people do that?

Kris....LMAO....I thought it interesting as well.

Labake....Seriously, I have read pre-nups that have a sex clause in them. I wouldn't do it, or sign one who had it.

Kris I know. I'm out of the country so I'm on my phone. No access to a computer right now. This is either a troll or we've ridiculed her so much, she wants nothing to do with us.

Yeah I'm sure those are the kind of marriages that last. *rolls eyes*

If you're worried about having sex withheld then don't fricking marry the person

I'm not sure she's a troll, but many of her posts are, well, intewesting.

Like she has a $200 dress budget but wants a Pnina dress. Hmmmm....

Mrs S, I saw that one as well. You can't even rent a Pnina for $200.

LOL I don't think you can get a Pnina off of a Chinese knockoff site for that amount either :-)

This is still going? I never commented because all has been said already and Julie never came back. To be honest, I would be hiding somewhere too lol. I think I am just don't get why you would put that in your vows. What's the sense behind that? It is not legally binding or anything and even if it were, would she get a divorce if she didn't get as much as she wanted? Same goes for a prenup. It is just ridiculous. Forcing someone to have sex with you. Psh

Oooh, Labake, where you at?

Carole...O.o.O. You've seen that?!? IDK why I'm surprised but.... Are these like old men and hot trophy wives or something? Or normal looking people?

Might as well throw in a clause about staying within your ideal BMI and getting regular waxes.

Mrs. S .....LMAO

So, in other words this could POSSIBLY be a "Holy Troll Turds" post?

Definitely don't put a requirement of sex X times per week into a prenup! A prenup is a contract with enforceable provisions that take effect on a divorce. A contract to have sex X times a week is not enforceable. I mean seriously, what do you expect would happen if it were violated? A judge would stand over you and make sure he did it? Void the marriage?

This lawyer will be over here, beating her head against a wall.

I was expecting to come back this morning and find this flagged or something! I due fear though, we have scared Julie off.... oh well....

@2d why wouldn't that be any more enforceable than anything else people put in a prenup? I mean, aside from the whole, if-you-enforce-it-against-someone's-will-it's-actually-rape thing. I would just think if someone defaults on the agreement, that's that. Although I can't imagine what the ramifications in the prenup would be. Like, "have sex x times per week with me or you give up rights to all joint property?"

I'm actually curious. Sorry if that's a stupid question. I iz not a lawyer.

There are several reasons it would not be enforceable. First off, you'd have to be very specific before the language would even be something that could be interpreted by a court. If you said, for example, that you'd have sex three times a week, are we talking about averages, or minimums? What happens if one of you goes on a business trip for a week? Or is in an accident and is in the hospital for a week?

You'd also have an issue of who was responsible for a failure to have sex "enough" times. If he was planning on sex on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, but she had a headache on Wednesday, is he obligated to have sex on Thursday instead?

And how do you develop evidence of all this? This is kind of the ultimate in he-said, she-said, since there are unlikely to be third party witnesses.

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Then there is the fact that courts tend to disfavor "lifestyle" prenup clauses in general. In fact, too many bizarre clauses may invalidate the entire prenup.

And this type of clause illustrates one reason for the reluctance. The clause could only be enforced after the marriage had fallen apart. And the same factors that could cause a marriage to fall apart could often cause one or both parties to be less willing to have sex. Indeed, this kind of clause might even be seen as going against public policy by encouraging divorce, since a spouse in a marriage that was having a rough patch might want to get out early before his average dipped too low (so to speak!).

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