Sex in our vows?

LOL @unique!!! That is so funny!!!

Seriously though, please do post video if you do this!!!

If sex drive is an "argument" than u guys need to talk about that before u ""commit"" in a marriage. Sex is a "part" of the commitment to me. (anyone agrees?) it's certainly something that you and your future talk about in person for sure!! It is your life, your private life. No one need to know about your future sex life/drive.

I'm not judging. If that's what you want in your vows go ahead, but I am along a few others(without judging) it is a little bit tacky. More like private, between you and your future!!

You love him... And you wouldn't say "I will marry you, or yes!" if you didn't know him better! Maybe you are just questioning yourself and got the wedding jitters!!!! Cheer up lady!! He loves you and is willing to give you everything including your ring and a question from him asking you to be his wife!!! Sex drive is only as important as you make it to be important! Love is what important! With love comes great "sex"!!

Julie R. I seldom pass up an opportunity to make a witty comment but I'm really not here to ridicule you. So I think you've gathered that the general consensus is its not in good taste to put this in your vows.

About the whole sex issue, have you tried talking to your FH to find out why there is such a discrepancy in sex drive. So much so you want to add sex to your vows.

That is just tacky and trashy. How would you feel if you were forced to commit to a certain activity that you didn't want to?

Seriously if you are arguing over sex now, I personally think you need to hold off on the wedding until the two of you can work that issue out.

Kasey.. I completely agree! I hope I made sense in my comment. But it's just their "issue" or "her" issue... No mother, father, grandmother or aunt "whatever" need to know or "question" their sex life... More and more I just think this post is a bit ridic. But maybe now I'm starting to to "point out" that at least my marriage is going to be phenominal!!!

Side step the sex in vows for a second. Why is his sex drive low & urs high? Is it weight, time of day, hormonal imbalance? Many things can factor in. I too have had this issue. Couple months back, FH & I constantly fighting, stressing about EVERYTHING, plus both of us have gained alot of weight. I had issues w/his weight which affected me being attracted to him. Ladies on here adviced me not to be so superfiscial & to look deeper. I did, came to realize my unhappiness w/myself & our problems was reflecting on how I look at him. Now, our sex life is hitting high charts again, I've got the hots for him, chub & all!

Moral of story, figure out the reasoning of why the sex isnt that great, what's changed, etc. Cuz if you cant fix it now, marriage can make it worse. As other ladies said, the crazed sex you first had dies down after marriage & you have to deal with that, even if it means using personal pleasure. So if you cant deal with it now, it's not gonna get better.

Well said masquerade bride!

That said, now on to your question. HELL NO! DO NOT put that in your vows. Your wedding is NOT the place to get THAT intimate. In fact I'm sure everyone has elderly/old fashioned family members that believe in no premarital sex/being a virgin. Even putting nicely "I promise to please you in every way" that not only sounds dirty but also alittle TMI for a wedding. Vows are speaking to your commitment. If you force him to commit to certain amount of sex & later on in the marriage he can no longer perform as much as you expect, what you gonna do, divorce him?

Katie B: LMAO you are awesome

You forgot to mention she also needs to include how much per year she will spend on lingere, as her FH might need to see new pieces on her each time.

If I heard that in someone's vows, I'd never look at that couple the same. No one needs to know how your sex life is going and it could be very embarrassing for him. All anyone would remember from your wedding is that part. I know that'd be the most significant part in the back of my mind. Please do not say it period. There is counseling for how you two can get through that if needed not for everyone to know on a special day like that.

Yes yes lingerie is vital. Also: what rooms is sex permitted in? What about car sex? Shower sex? Which days specifically (Fridays aren't good for me)?

Tabatha you're dirty!!! I like it!! HAHAHA

I had to come back YET AGAIN and read the new comments.... I'm dying over here! Haha!

Okay I got it figured out!!

Julie, do it up like the people on Polyamory (A TV show on showtime)

The Triad was asking for advice on weddings and one woman told her how she had sex with her husband at the alter! Everyone watched and the wedding party their lovers joined in! I think this is the wedding for you!!

Also I must add i'm slighty confused, in your first post you want to specify how often, then you say maybe something like 'please you in every way' leave me thinking...

I vow to please you in everyway on Monday Wednesday and Friday, on Tuesday i vow to please you only orally and Thursday and Saturday i vow to please you anally, but sunday is gods day and i vow to not please you at all'

Also dearest poster, as a lady witha high sex drive, feel free to google ' Hitachi Magic Wand' i highly recommend!!!!

Julie....if you argue about this now you will continue to argue about it.

Maybe this is a red flag you shouldn't ignore.

I gotta say, I love the ladies on our little community forums - you guys are hilarious and give great advice. That being said, I think that we should calm it down a bit...I don't recognize this poster, which, as addicted to the community as I am, tells me that she either does not post often or is a new member. She has asked if it would be tacky as well as if there was a polite way for it to be worded, which many have answered. IMO, I don't think we need to tease her so much. I know it is all in good fun, and if I had posted this, I would have expected these responses and LMAO about them, but if she is new or a shy poster, then this could scare her off and she might get the wrong impression of you fabulous ladies.

Julie - your wedding is just that - yours. So do what you think should be done, but to answer your questions, no, I don't think there is a nice way to word it or that it really should be said during your vows, but ultimately the decision is yours. And please know that these ladies don't mean any harm, they are just playfully teasing

Put it in a prenup if it really is important. Something like that in vows, I think, is only apropriate if it's "tounge in cheek" if it's serious it will just make everyone really uncomfortable. If it's something you feel is a nescesity to you two getting married you may want to get some counciling if you feel you need to extract a promise on how often you get sex there are deeper issues here that need to be worked out stating it in a vow isn't going to guarentee anything honey.

Ladies ladies, be nice. The question is very ripe for jokes, but Julie is asking seriously.

I don't think it has a place in your vows. Even outside of the vows it's not really practical. If your sex drives are out of sync, than the only way to really get back in sync is to find the root cause and address that cause. It could be a physical cause for all you know. If it's psychological than you insisting on a quota could actually hurt your relationship down the road. I'd sit down and discuss it.