Sex in our vows?

Uhm... Ya I think thats really bad taste. Everyone at your wedding doesnt need to know that, you can talk about it just between the 2 of you.

Very much so!

Personally, I'd say this is not appropriate for your vows. Vows are supposed to be forever, and your sex drive (as well as his) will change over time.

What is it was worded in a nice way? Like I vow to keep you pleased in every way I can

I personally dont think he should have to commit to having sex a certain number of times per week, period. Thats just me though.. I could see if you went months without it or only once a month or something.. Idk. I would leave it out of your vows all together.

Well, yeah, that's an appropriate way to word it.

With the wording of your question, we all seriously thought that you were asking if it was okay to say, "I promise to schtup you at least twice a week, dear."

Tacky and distasteful. If you could code it without anyone knowing AT ALL what it meant, I suppose, but nobody can keep up with a sex schedule in life. We all change, it happens.

Not appropriate for your vows....nobody needs to know he doesn't do you enough. Just a little thought for you to consider....frequency of pootie tends to drop off as time goes on. If you're not happy with in now....well, it's not gonna improve.

Just sayin'.....

I think it is bad taste as well and something I wouldnt want to hear as a guest at a wedding. As Simeon else said, sex drives change over time. You could however put in something about making every effort to keep the spark alive or something in your vows.

Oh my gosh - DON'T DO IT!! This is the tackiest thing I have ever heard of!! Keep sex drives and the amount of sex per week OUT of the ceremony!!

No one attending wants to know that type of thing (way TMI), and really do you want to share that with your grandmother, FH's mother, your father ect..??

"I vow to keep you pleased in every way I can" sounds creepy to me. Sorry.

I agree with the others that I don't think this vow is appropriate, period. There are lots of reasons that a person's ability to have sex will change over time. If one of you has an accident that incapacitates you, would you consider that person to be breaking a vow b/c you can't have sex xx times per week? I agree sex is important, but this vow seems....IDK. Punitive somehow.

I've heard people reference "body/mind/soul" in vows, but it's in a very general sense. Perhaps you could say something EXTREMELY vague and discuss in private what it means to you....if your FH is even on board.

How does your FH feel about taking this vow?

I think that it is as well bad taste. Your sex life should be private and something for the two of you to discuss there are a lot of things that can impact someones sex drive and it could be something that he can't control. I also agree with Dawn.

Yes it sounds tacky..maybe just say something like i promise to be faithful and attentive to your needs. but NOT i promise to give it to ya at least 3 times a week till death do us part lol

I find it in poor taste... heck, I think it's distasteful to even have a private agreement about something like that, but that is due to the experience a woman I know went through.

(Her now-exhusband expected her to satisfy him at least three times a week... She was diagnosed with cancer and had to have surgery. He still expected her to "perform" even though she was on drugs. When she recovered from surgery and was cleared to drive again, her first trip out was to an attorney so she could file for divorce.)

Sounds like something to talk about during premarital counseling, not your vows. Sex is an important part of a relationship, but I don't think it is really what you're celebrating during the wedding ceremony and reception. Focus on your enduring and faithful love on that special day, and save the talk about sex for another time!!

Also - are you trying to put this in your vows b/c you don't believe he'll do it otherwise? Because, that's a red flag. IMO, vows aren't meant to be a means of control over someone's behavior. And also IMO, "pleasure" is not on the same maturity level of emotion as the rest of the vows. Physical pleasure is fleeting. Like physical beauty. What if your FH wanted you to vow that you would exercise 4x a week to keep up your appearance?

IDK. I don't mean to be so harsh with you, but this seems like an issue to discuss with him on another level, and it's an issue where you BOTH have to be understanding of each other - maybe he wants you to vow to leave him alone about it and only do it twice a year. Everybody's body and hormones are different, you know? If you both truly vow to honor and cherish each other on a mature level, I would think you would both be trying to sort this issue out anyway, without it having to be so...specific.

@Samersue that story makes my stomach turn.

Ummmm, please don't do this. While reading I was hoping to see a "lol" or "just kidding" somewhere in there. Maybe the two of you can work something out in private, it would definitely embarrass him to say it.

Jaletia- I'm with you. I thought this thread was a joke when I first read it myself. Coming back to see what others would add to the discussion and I want to say that I agree with all the ladies who've commented thus far. I second Brittany's suggestion for pre-marital counseling and pronto. Good luck!

Is it his idea to put it in there or is this something you're encouraging him to do? Cause the ONLY reason i could see someone doing something that tacky was so when he doesn't live up to that, you can throw it in his face that he isn't living up to his Vows.

Harsh, but just saying, don't do it and I agree with everyone else, Pre-marital counseling is something you guys should invest in...

So wait, you want this man to make a vow BEFORE GOD to have sex with you multiple times a week... even when he doesn't necessarily want to? I mean sex is an important part of a relationship, but it's not as serious as staying with you "through sickness and in health/staying faithful/richer or poorer" etc. Don't lose sight of the importance of marriage and definitely don't put this in your vows.