Our colors are cardinal red and gold (FH’s Alma mater’s colors 🙄 - dont let FH pick colors while wine tasting) with peach and white accents. Our decor really plays on the cardinal and gold and has an elegant romantic feel. Groomsmen will be wearing black on black tuxedos with gold ties (FH was not on board with gold colored suits not his style and really wants a tuxedo). Bridesmaids will be wearing a wine red color as I wanted the dresses to be a bit more subdued since cardinal is kind of in your face. My mom asked if it would be ok if she can wear something in black or navy blue to match the groomsmen and my dad (charcoal gray) because she isn’t comfortable in colors. I want her to be comfortable and feel her best. Does the MOB dress have match the wedding party or colors? Will anyone care or notice? Also, should I have my FMIL match my mom somewhat? We don’t have a relationship so idk how comfortable I am suggesting what I think she should wear. Others on a FB group said to put my mom in burgundy, gold or silver, and while those colors are beautiful I know my mom won’t be here for it and I just want her to be comfortable so can enjoy the day too. Thoughts on MOB not matching the wedding colors?
Hi Felicia! My mom is self conscious as well, so I let her and my MIL chose the colors they want. They both got their dresses at David’s Bridal and were beautiful! David’s let my mom return her dress if she didn’t like it, so it was nice she had that flexibility and made the process for her more comfortable. Our colors were peach, white and sandy tan. Both moms selected a soft blush that complimented the bridesmaids dresses (peach). The professionals at the store did a great job of guiding them and helped them select complimentary colors. For some reason if a store professional makes a suggestion my mom loves it, but if I make the same one it doesn’t go over well 😂. I did purchase fabric samples for each mom to take with them as the store associate will ask what the scheme is. I think if the MOB doesn’t match, for me, not a big deal at all. I’d rather a MOB who feels good and smiling then frowning because she doesn’t like her dress 😂🌹🌿❤️
Moms don't need to match anyone. They should wear whatever dress they love and feel comfortable in. The only color they shouldn't wear is whatever color the bride is going to wear. Since your mom doesn't like color then blue or black would be perfect. I would let your future mother-in-law decide for herself unless she asks your input. If so, you could suggest colors, but I wouldn't mandate.
You are so sweet to be considerate of what your mom would be comfortable in over how things match! There are so many colors that could would compliment cardinal and gold or could be a subdued version of the color palette. She might like a nude or champagne colored dress, or even a charcoal gray that matches the men and maybe a dark red necklace or a single red rose to help tie in the cardinal color without being overwhelming. Often when people don't want to wear strongly colored dresses, it can be due to insecurities or not wanting to bring attention to themselves. If that is the case for your mom, JJ's House has absolutely beautiful MOB dresses that are modest and mature. I know at least 2 MOBs who have ordered their dresses from here and loved them! They have lots of color choices for each style, too. Here a some examples of them:
Your color scheme sounds beautiful! Im letting my FMIL & stepmom choose their own colors- I want them to feel/look their absolute best & they know what colors look best on them. Our colors are red, charcoal and cream- my stepmom is going to wear a charcoal pant suit & my FMIL is going to wear a shade of red (she’s not sure if it’ll be a dress or pant suit).
Our colors are burgundy, black, ivory, and rose gold. My mom chose a dark purple dress and his mom chose a navy dress from David's bridal. I didn't suggest colors to them at all, they both just tried on dresses and sent me pictures. They both made sure they wouldn't clash with the wedding party since both our brothers and my grandmother are in it so they would be in pictures with our moms. Otherwise though there won't be many pictures with the wedding party and the moms so they don't necessarily need to match. I do suggest David's bridal (they both found dresses there) but to look in the bridesmaids dresses rather than MOB as they both felt the MOB section was rather matronly for their tastes. Another site that they found pretty dresses on was jjshouse but I can't testify to their quality since I haven't ordered anything from them.