Tact and diplomacy
It’s funny. When I got engaged back in January 2018, Tara (from Dreammakers) was the very first vendor I reserved. We didn’t need coordination through the actual City Hall wedding in November 2018, because we always had our eye on a big ceremony/reception at the first year anniversary mark in November 2019. I have to explain something. I’m a data scientist – which means I am fast, decisive, and organized. I would prefer to get everything paid for, sorted months in advance if that’s possible and I’ll often work so quickly, I’ll accidentally steamroll right over my vendors. From the get-go, I knew I needed help, not with the coordination but with diplomacy, tact, and negotiation. I emailed Tara and knew right away she was the one. She was able to describe to me the timeline, who we should chase and at what point. She was the equivalent of a marathoner coach, telling me at what point we should go full-steam ahead (my favorite speed), and what point we needed to lay off completely to give a little “implied pressure” to vendors who had the capacity to bend the rules for us. She worked with me, we formulated a strategy. I wanted an all-inclusive venue, as few vendors as possible, and above all, I wanted to leave by 9:30pm the night of. She had a spreadsheet system all laid out, and let me spin my wheels as much as I needed, micro-adjusting the tables, the names, the colors. It was great, she let me run out of steam, then we reigned it in together for the last week leading up to it. Day-of coordination, meant that I also met and worked with Raquel. While I was thoroughly impressed with both individuals, I was shocked and impressed when at the end of the night, a rather tipsy guest was trying to encourage me to take my wedding cake home. I didn’t want to because the hotel room fridge is small, and I genuinely eat minimal sugar. After saying quite nicely no a few times, Raquel finally put her foot down and said: The bride said no, her fridge is too small, ok? It was a small, but powerful presence and once again I was reminded of why I liked these two. Tact and diplomacy. A little power, shown at the right time, speaks volumes. Their work was ever professional, but I would say if you really want to know what sets them apart? It’s their ability to know when to press forth and when to back off. You need someone like this in your corner, especially in an industry which thinks anything “wedding” related deserves a 200% markup. I’ll return to them in the future for vow renewals, anniversaries, and hopefully, baby showers.