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The holiday season is a common time to see signs of a proposal coming. Aside from the festive lights donning homes and trees, families are already coming together to celebrate—what’s one more thing tack onto the celebration? For these reasons and more, the high season for engagements tends to be November through February. In fact, statistics show that nearly 40 percent of engagements occur during this time period alone.
We can’t deny that there is something incredibly alluring about your special person getting down on one knee amidst the often snowy setting that accompanies this time of year. “The season is about family, community and anticipation of gifts and love,” says Lisa Bahar, marriage and family therapist. “It is also a time that people have perhaps more time to express their commitment versus the hustle and bustle during the other parts of the year.”
Are you questioning whether or not you’re seeing signs of a proposal coming this holiday season? See if any of these signs sound familiar.
Your partner asks you about your family traditionsWe’re not talking about your partner questioning if your mom prefers apple pie over pumpkin—we’re talking about your partner inquiring about your family’s stance on getting permission before a proposal. “You may have discussed it before, but if now your partner is actively listening, wanting additional details (what family members, why it is important to you, how far ahead, etc.), he or she might showing some marriage proposal signs,” says Terri Orbuch Ph.D., relationship expert and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. “This discussion happens in the fall or over the holidays, but whenever it occurs, be ready to give as many details as are important to you.”
Your partner asks what you think about certain ringsThis might sound like a no-brainer and one of the clearest signs of a proposal coming, but if your partner is super stealth, he or she might slip the question into a conversation that seems unsuspecting. For example, upon you responding to the news that your friend got engaged, your partner might ask you what you think of her ring. “Again, this is a discussion you may have had previously (and in the past you may have given your partner hints along the way), but your partner is now bringing up the discussion to understand and process all the details and traditions that might be important to you,” Dr. Orbuch explains. “If your partner is asking questions —specific ones— this is a big sign that he or she is trying to get the proposal right.” If you're on board, give as much detail as you’d like to ensure he or she picks the right ring for you.
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