Setting up a wedding registry can kind of feel like the best shopping spree you’ve ever been on—and even better, you don’t have to pay for anything! However, creating a successful wedding registry does require quite a bit of thought and upkeep, and couples often look back and wish they had done things differently.
Here are a few common registry etiquette mistakes you can easily avoid.
Waiting too long to registerCreate a wedding registry within a few weeks of your engagement. “Oh, but I don’t want to seem like I’m greedy,” you may be thinking. Remember that creating a registry is actually helping your guests. How many times have you struggled to pick out a birthday present or anniversary gift for a loved one? A registry takes the guesswork out of gift giving—your friends and family member won’t have to wonder if you’ll like their gift. And your loved ones will want to start shopping now. You’ll probably start receiving engagement gifts shortly after the proposal, so you might as well give your guests guidance ASAP.
Not researching retailersTake the time to look at different retailers’ registry programs. What are the pros and cons of each? What are their return policies? Are there registry completion discounts? How easy to use is their website? Are there other features or benefits that appeal to you? Don’t just register somewhere because that’s where all of your friends register—do your own research and find the retailers that work best for your and your guests’ needs.
Only registering in one placeSure, it might be easy to register at just one retailer, but it’s not the most convenient for your guests. We recommend registering at two or three different retailers to provide guests with options. Remember that some of your guests might want to purchase your guests in person (as opposed to online) and registering for more than one retailer will provide your guests with options for the store they visit. And don’t forget about alternative registries. And on that note…
Not considering alternative registries…When it comes time to register, many couples forget about other registry options, including honeymoon, cash, and experience registries. These types of registries are great for couples who own a lot of home items already.
…or only having an alternative registryIf you do decide to create an alternative registry, great! But remember that some of your guests will want to purchase a tangible gift for you, no matter how much you gently nudge them toward your alternative registry. This is particularly true if you’re having a wedding shower where guests traditionally bring gifts. So be sure to also register for some gifts at a retailer, at least for Great Aunt Esther’s sake.
Not working togetherWhile we wholeheartedly recommend delegating wedding-related tasks when possible, registering for gifts is one that you and your future spouse should work on together. Try to visit retailers together and select gifts as a team. Sure, you may have to compromise, but the end result is a home filled with items that both you and your partner truly love.
Registering for too few itemsAgain, the whole “but I don’t want to seem greedy” thing. Yes, we know, but registering for a lot of gifts will give your guests lots of options, which they’ll actually appreciate. We recommend doubling your guest count and registering for that many gifts, or more. You can always return gifts at a later date if you feel like you haven’t received the items you need.