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5 Signs Your Partner Isn't Helping Wedding Plan Enough

Trust us, your wedding will run significantly smoother if both of you work together.



Photo: Rebekah Jackson Photography

Wedding planning is no easy task—especially if you have to do it all by yourself. From finding your florist to nailing down your guest list, wedding planning needs to be a joint act where both you and your future-spouse are involved. Feeling like you’re the only one pulling the weight when it comes to wedding planning? Just check out these warning signs and see if you should sit down and ask your partner to be chip in more. Trust us, your wedding will run significantly smoother if both of you work together.

Here are some tell-tale signs your partner isn't participating enough in the wedding planning process.

You're attending a lot of vendor meetings alone.

If you’re noticing that your S.O. isn’t making the time or effort to show up to vendor appointments and it’s bothering you, then you need to speak up. We understand that everyone has busy schedules, so work with your partner and find a compromise. If they truly can’t make it to that venue tour or cake tasting, try video chatting them in either during the visit or calling them shortly after for a recap. You’ll feel relieved knowing that even though they couldn’t physically make the appointment, they still will be able to weigh in as long as they are kept in the loop.

Your future spouse hasn't met your wedding planner.

Your wedding planner should be talking to both of you throughout the planning process. If you know your partner doesn’t have your planner’s email or phone number saved, set up a time where you can meet, (preferably in person) and hash out any important details. Synching up your S.O. with your planner is an easy fix to getting them more involved with important wedding decisions.

They say “I don’t care” every time you ask for an opinion.

It can be a tad annoying if for partner responds with a vague answer every time you ask for their input on a wedding planning decision. Even if they honestly don’t care which linens you should use to dress up your reception tables, it can get irritating having to make all the decisions yourself. Try narrowing down which tasks are more important to have their opinion on, such as if you’re okay with choosing the centerpieces, but need help with figuring out your menu selections. Then set a designated time, (like over dinner) where you can sit down and discuss which tasks you need more than just a “whatever works” response.

Your future in-laws are constantly asking you questions about the wedding.

If you’re noticing that your partner's parents are talking to you way more than they are talking to your future-spouse about wedding details, you should address it. Your partner is technically responsible for relaying important information to his/her family members. Have them check in with their parents/wedding party regularly and be sure to add any wedding details you are tired of repeating to your wedding website.

They don't know about your wedding planning checklist.

Both you and your S.O. should be aware of which wedding planning tasks you’ve crossed off the list. If they have no idea whether or not the seating chart is finished, then this means they aren’t staying on top of the wedding planning process. Try having a date night once every week or two where you can discuss wedding details. This will keep them up-to-date with which tasks are complete and which still need to be tackled. You can also work on delegating responsibility to your partner, giving him or her ownership over certain tasks.