7 Things NOT to Say to a Groom on His Wedding Day
It's the groom's wedding day, too! Avoid these questions and comments that could put a damper on his big day.
If you're spending any amount of time with a groom on his wedding day, you'll want to make sure he stays calm and happy all day long, so give a little thought before bringing up certain subjects.
When talking to the groom on his wedding day, avoid saying any of the below.
"Why didn’t you just elope?"
No matter how close you are to the groom or how well he knows your sense of humor, you should never say this. For the last several months the groom has been planning this celebration and helping his S.O. hash out all the stressful details. Joking or even just asking why they didn’t elope or plan something smaller is a bit rude after all the hard work the newlyweds put into their wedding.
"I want to make a toast."
Even though you might think you are offering a favor by saying you want to give a toast, this can add extra stress to a groom. Most likely he has already asked the toast-givers months prior to the wedding. Therefore, if you haven’t been asked by either party, then you shouldn’t try and sneak in some last minute words of advice.
"Are you sure your in-laws like you?"
No one wants to hear that the love of their life’s parents may have doubts about you on your wedding day. Chances are, your in-laws have known about your relationship for a while and have approved of your commitment to their child. There is no reason to bring up any unnecessary worries by asking this question.
"So when are you having kids?"
Let the newlyweds live in the moment during their wedding day. The groom has the rest of his life to make plans with his S.O.. So, instead of asking this probing question, let the happy couple enjoy their day together and not rush into what the future will bring.
"Can I invite a plus-one to the reception?"
Never ask the groom if you can invite someone to the wedding—especially at the very last minute. There is a reason why this potential guest didn’t make the final cut and why guests lists and seating charts take ages to create. Asking if someone who hasn't been invited can show up later to the reception just adds more stress to a groom.
"I still can't believe you're setting down!"
Not only is this statement a bit hurtful, it can really put a damper on any groom’s mood. A groom's wedding day is supposed to be about him starting a new life together with his partner. Therefore, as a guest, you want to make sure you are supportive of his new commitment. Making a statement like this can cause uneasy tension and is just not the place for jabbing remarks.
"What favors are you giving out?"
Don’t be that guest who is looking for the favors or asking if you'll get anything at the end of the night. Enjoy the evening—whether or not you "approve" of the favors.
