I know everyone thinks it's tacky but...

"In regard to security, any venue serving alcohol is required to have a security guard posted."

..what? I have never been to a wedding in my life with a security guard. Elaborate.

@Teal: As I said before, weddings aren't actually gift giving affairs. Most people do anyway, to be polite, but it isn't actually a gifting party, it's a congratulatory party. Showers, on the other hand, are parties thrown by someone other than the guests of honor that are meant specifically for gifting.

Basically, if you throw a party yourself, it's not a gifting occasion. If someone throws it in your honor, it typically is. That's why it's rude to host your own showers/birthday party/etc.

I think I'm one of the few who aren't bothered my honeyfunds. I personally didn't do it because they charge a fee for every $ so it seemed silly to me for that reason but I've seen other people do them and I've never perceived it as tacky.

Also I have heard people who have had theft problems. Not from guests but from other people at the venue. I think it's a rarity but I would definitely get a locked holder for the cards that I've seen at a lot of weddings for that reason

We didn't have to have a security guard at my wedding.

We had alcohol.

Get a card box that is just a slit in the top. Don't invite shady people to your wedding.

@Erin: they call registries for baby showers baby registries, but you don't actually register for babies. It's called a wedding registry because it is for WEDDING showers.

No, you DON'T get the experience. You get cash minus 7%. Just because you choose to spend it on that doesn't mean everyone will. It's literally asking for cash but with a full pretense of lies, with the experiences being the lies.

Some honeymoon registries give vouchers, and there have been MANY accounts of those vouchers being worthless once they get to the hotel.

They're just rude and a poor excuse to blatantly ask for money without feeling guilty for saying "We want cash."

@Erin: Additionally, just because YOU don't feel something is rude, doesn't make it so. Etiquette is predefined, and thankfully not subject to the whims and feelings of impolite people.

>> ..what? I have never been to a wedding in my life with a security guard. Elaborate.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/police-officers-at-your-venue/eb462960046c9aab.html

I would also like to tell the OP, despite all the nastiness and negativity here... "received a lot of money in cards at our wedding" so maybe you don't need to worry so much about that. But we also had a 200 people wedding

*fixt for the touchy

This whole thread has me like

@Daniel: You realize that a security officer being required to be present will vary by location, right? It's not just SOP everywhere.

@Kira.. Oh honey, no...

Don't register for a lot of items and have a locked box for the cards with money at your gift table

I did not invite anyone to my wedding that would consider stealing from us...that's a bullshit reason to validate being tacky.

I've been a bartender at weddings and have never seen security unless it was specific to the venue i.e. at a museum or art gallery. In those cases though, it had nothing to do with the wedding and everything to do with the liability of the venue. You have bartenders to make sure nothing happens to your guests that are drinking.

Up here I've never heard of off-duty police or security being hired for weddings. That would be a huge fortune.

I think security depends more on the number of people that you have at your event, not whether or not you have alcohol.

Our contract with the park stated if we had 151+ people that we would need to hire a security guard. But it had nothing to do with the alcohol.

@mna Quite obviously laws vary from state to state, laws vary in different counties, and policies vary on the 'building'. But for one to say "I've never heard of this" (an implication it doesn't exist) just means the individual might be a little sheltered and uneducated on the topic despite already existing posts discussing it.

@OhHappyPaulsons I'm totally grateful. But stop pretending like nobody is supposed to ask about the topic, and that nobody else is allowed to discuss it or answer. People get cash as gifts. Its not a shocker.

@Yasmina I think it's both honestly! We're planning less than 75 people, but I had a venue tell me that if we had alcohol, we would need to pay for security. Who knows? Lol

ETA: now that I think about it, it wasn't just a guard, it would have been a cop on duty. Perhaps to avoid drunk drivers?

Antonia: that's really interesting! I'm another one who'd never heard of security being necessary for a wedding with alcohol. Probably does vary across the country.

crazy.

@Daniel: That's NOT what @OHP was saying at all. She was making the distinction that receiving a gift is NOT equal to MAKING money. Making money implies that it is a source of actual income, much like saying donation implies a charity.

You might want to step back and lurk. You seem to get quite overexcited about nothing very quickly.

As for the guard thing, I suspect it isn't as common as you think. I hadn't ever heard of it before someone mentioned it here, either, and I've been to quite a few weddings, and in different states as well as my own.

Funny bit is, when I'm drinking at other peoples weddings, I'm weary of the police officer.

But at my own wedding, I was glad he was there - and I thanked him for his time. Go figure!