I know everyone thinks it's tacky but...

I think in the world wedding, there is a good balance for keeping the etiquette while being practical. But something like this are just plain wrong.

Let's just say if one is not concern about being tacky or rude, why not just set up pay pal account or Vemo for your guest to "gift" the money? IMO, it is better than HF or Zola and same principle applied.

If you consider that rude then why would HF and Zola will be better?

People are warning me about leaving the card box unguarded too. Maybe once the reception starts, the card box can be moved into the bridal suite or something so no one has to look after it?

Spazzy, it's a talent like your doppelganger skill.

I think a locked card box or asking your DOC to keep an eye on the box should help.

ETA: Siri.

I would recommend Zola. They don't make any profit off of cash registries, they charge the lowest processing fee. I agree with you that cash can be cumbersome and insecure. I was actually talking to a friend of mine the other day who is 27 and she thinks it's super tacky and rude for a couple over the age of 30 to set up a big registry. Like what you're 30 and you don't have all that stuff yet? You just want to "upgrade" and get nice stuff? That seems more greedy. She would much rather contribute to someone's house fund or a fun trip. I think this is a younger people thing, I'm 25 and all of my friends think a fund is a really great idea. But I also think it's a regional thing. Here in AZ it's totally acceptable and done ALL THE TIME. The best piece of wedding advice I've gotten is that you won't be able to totally please your all of your guests. With Zola you get the best of both worlds! And for larger gifts people can contribute to those gifts. No one is going to buy a $350 item but 7 people will contribute $50 to it! Don't let this thread bring ya down. ~Laura~

Anyway, those who were respectful and offered helpful suggestions, thank you. I really do appreciate your input.

To everyone else, I understand you're probably sick of "newbies." I never meant to incite rage. I tried to do my research and was honest to goodness just trying start a conversation. But everybody is new to this at some point and we all have to start somewhere. Yeah, sometimes we look into things we don't necessarily think all the way though, but that's the whole point of doing research. I'll stick to safer topics from here on out.

Everyone was respectful. Don't be so oversensitive.

With Zola the credit card processing fee is 2.65%. So if you wanted to give $350 you would have to pay an extra $9.27. Then you don't have to go to an ATM or the bank, travel with it, and worry about it being lost, plus you can do it before the wedding in the comfort of your home. Most young people would gladly pay that fee to avoid all that trouble and insecurity. Kind of sad but true. If your guests use Uber, Instacart, Venmo, or any other app where money is exchanged they will be glad to use Zola. Obviously we are too far out to think about a registry, and we probably won't do a fund because we need stuff for a new home (hopefully!). ~Laura~

Haven't seen anyone be disrespectful - you could find thousands (literally) of threads on this if you search the forums. It's brought up daily

Calm down , if you get all worked up over strangers answering you online I dread to think of how you deal with real life.

Take a breath and either take the advise given that it's tacky and rude regardless of how you try to dress it up or go off and do it but realise the majority of your guests will feel the same way the majority here do

Twa

So if a couple wants to go on their honeymoon the next day or a few days later they have to worry about opening all their envelopes and then getting the checks together, adding them all up, going to the bank during open hours, sign all of them, figure out who they're all written to, and then wait for the bank to process them. I mean yes people have done this for decades but if there's an easier more efficient way for everyone, why not do it??? ~Laura~

Or they could just pay for their honeymoon themselves, TealWedding/Laura. I know, it's such a weird concept, but I've heard it works out pretty well!

Who is Laura?

ETA: Oh, got it. TW is Laura. I thought they were suggesting the OP had changed their name or something.

Then you should be able to buy all the shit on your registry? I don't understand that argument.

Look I'm agreeing that of course it's tacky to ask for money, like that guy who wanted to put it on his invitation *eye roll*!! But I just think it's not a huge deal to give people the option to contribute to objects for the home or an experience for the couple. ~Laura~

I honestly feel like card boxes only get stolen when you're inviting 300 of your "nearest and dearest". more bodies, less eyes on the box, more strangers who might steal it.

I can say, with certainty, that no one I am inviting will be sealing my card box. And if they do they're going to be very sad to find it locked up.

It gives them options. Do you realize how many people receive cash as a wedding gift WITHOUT being charged the fees and directly asking for the handout?? Adults know how to gift. Registries give options. Otherwise, don't register for anything and people get the hint. Directly asking for money is rude AF.

You invite me to your wedding, I give you $200 cash. You invite me to your wedding and flat out say you want cash from me, I give you a naked Trump statue garden gnome. Don't be tacky.

Sorry if you thought I came off overly sensitive. It just kind of irritated me that everybody made all sorts of assumptions about me/what I'm doing. I guess I just felt like a lot of people were quick to jump at me, and yeah, I felt like a few people were talking to me like I was stupid. I'm surprised at the response because I did do research and never really saw people discussing other reasons for going with these online solutions. But seriously, I felt like a lot of people went overboard with the judgement on my question when a simple "ehh, I still think it's tacky and there are other ways to secure cash such as ..." Would have sufficed. But I understand you probably get tired of seeing the same questions day in and day out on this site. Guess I should have done a bit more research. No worries though. Good luck on all the wedding planning, everyone.

I would also like to add that thanks to the miracle of technology you can deposit a check LITERALLY ANYWHERE.

No like I mentioned my friend and I were talking about it the other day. I don't come on here often and it was the first thing I saw. Thought I'd put in my two cents. I agree with Alyssa this is a rather hostile environment. I wouldn't blame her for not posting again! ~Laura~

No comment on the honeyfund.

I will mention that I know of 5 different weddings in which cards were stolen. 4 of which were guests (family - for some reason cousins on 3 of them) of the wedding. Apparently if you look like your close to the couple and claim they asked you to take it to the honeymoon suite, you can walk out with a box. Sure nobody intends to invite someone who might steal but shit happens. And if it's a big enough wedding or hall, staff can't be solely responsible to monitor the card box. A box with a lock is a great step towards security but it's definitely not going to stop the truly determined.

While I'm not doing a HF or anything of the sort I have to say that Laura is not totally wrong about the "regional" or maybe "generational" might be a better word, I don't know, but in Seattle I've seen them ALOT on the 23-27 age group (I work for a theater where a lot of people got married last year lol)