I know everyone thinks it's tacky but...

If you think someone is going to steal from you on your wedding day, maybe they shouldn't be invited.

You could also get a card box with a lock. Honeyfund of any kind is a bad idea...not only do they charge fees for every "gift" but it's tacky to just straight out ask for money, which is basically what you're doing with it.

Why are we signing our posts with our names now? Second time I've seen this tonight...

Also, I'm more concerned with businesses such as HF taking a percentage of a guest's "donation" than the card box being stolen.

I'd rather have a locked card box that's watched by a hawk-eye than someone not affiliated with my wedding getting money from my (most likely) unsuspecting guests.

I will say that I won't give checks anymore at weddings. It will be cash or money order. Both me and my FMIL wrote checks for someone's wedding last October that has yet to be cashed! It's very frustrating that not only do we have to keep in mind the outstanding check when balancing checkbooks, but apparently none of the guests received thank you cards either.

I consider theses fees the sites charge as theft so I'd rather chance the .00001% possibility of someone somehow sneaking in and stealing a card box than the 100% chance of a site stealing from each person who donates on a honeyfund-esk site

Eta just saw Jay's post which leaves what I said moot

Ms. MRose- if you gave it last October it's not long valid, checks are only good up to 6 months after the written date and most banks won't even let it go that long.

@TealWedding/Laura I'm from AZ and I've never heard of Honeyfunds being common/acceptable... I've only seen it done one time.

@Teal: If a couple can't afford to go on their honeymoon and pay for everything WITHOUT asking for money at their wedding and/or depositing any monetary gifts they DO get, they probably shouldn't be taking a honeymoon.

I don't care what form it's in, whether it's asking for cash, Zola, Honeyfund, PayPal, or giving people your damn checking account number and a deposit slip, if you ask me directly for money for your wedding, you're getting a $5 Black Friday special appliance from Walmart that is so far past the purchase date you can't return it, as a stupid tax for being such a rude, entitled person.

REGISTRIES ARE FOR SHOWERS. They aren't for the wedding. Let me make that clear. WEDDINGS ARE NOT ACTUALLY GIFT GIVING EVENTS. Most people do anyway, but that's NOT what the registry is for. Would you be put off if someone registered for a trip to Disney World for their unborn child and requested people only gift to that for their baby shower? I bet you would. It's the exact same principal. A SHOWER is intended to SHOWER the guest of honor with gifts, not cash.

Also, just because you run with a group of people who feels it's okay to behave in a rude and entitled manner does NOT mean that it's common in your area. It just means you run with classless people.

If you are that concerned then lock the box. #twa #rbc

Yes honeyfunds are considered tacky. I'm okay with tacky I guess. The last 3 weddings I went to were for friends and they all did honeyfunds and received thousands of dollars. I'm not expecting that kind of money but obviously a number of people were fine giving to those funds. I always choose honeyfund to give to. It's convenient and I know the money is going towards an awesome adventure for the happy couple.

"It's convenient and I know the money is going towards an awesome adventure for the happy couple."

No, it isn't. It's going into their bank account, minus 7%. Go right ahead and be rude to your guests, but expect them to side eye you the whole time.

@ Samantha, I know they are no longer valid. It was just the aggravation of having outstanding checks and the lack of a Thank You card afterwards made it more annoying. From now on, I'll only give cash, money order, or a physical gift.

@mna I wasn't aware registries were for showers? Can you explain more? Is there some tradition on why brides set up a registry for showers and not for the wedding? Sorry not being snarky just genuinely confused. ~Laura~

I agree Teal. They are called wedding registries not shower registries. I was really confused by that as well. I've always bought wedding gifts off the registry. Why else would it be listed on the STD?

Cash is an awesome adventure! Plus I paid the extra 7%. It wasn't taken out of the gift. All of my friends went on honeymoons. They spent the cash on the honeymoon and whatever else they wanted. I've never side eyed someone so I wouldn't know. I don't judge people like you do I guess.

And it's not rude. If they don't want to use it they just don't. I'm not forcing anyone to give to my honeyfund. It's just an option.

Omg! Registries should never be mentioned on the STD, EW. OR the invitation. Also, with Honeyfund,it's deceptive. You think you're buying your loved ones an adventure but it's just a bait and switch (minus a fee) for cold hard cash. The people don't get the experience. If you're going to talk about it, at least get that right.

Alyssa, I have no sympathy for someone who knowingly asks about a hot topic here, "for discussion". Well you got your discussion. It's rude.

You do get the experience. If someone wants to give me $50 towards cocktails, guess what I'm buying? Yes it's just cash but if you spend it on what it was intended for then I don't think it's deceptive. I went back and looked at the last STD I got and you're right. No registry. I must have seen it on websites.

Even if it was on the STD, That still would've been rude. Registry info should never be mentioned on the STD or the invite, just to clarify for others.

My point regarding Honeyfund is you're NOT buying the guest the experience! Honeyfund is pretending to sell experiences and just giving money. Bait and switch. With a fee. Honeyfund is deceiving your guests, how is this so hard to figure out? Once again, your own personal experience is irrelevant. What YOU would do is irrelevant. Honeyfund is not providing to you what the guests think they're buying. Deceptive.

Maybe I'll add a disclaimer to my website then for all the people who don't get how it works. The people who donate to it most likely already know because they had one at their weddings. I can add a blurb though.