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Esther
Super June 2010

Another Sad Breakup Story... 24 days before the wedding...

Esther, on June 1, 2010 at 11:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 145

I am absolutely devastated. It's been rough with the stress of us being apart. But I knew we would make it because we made it through 3 years apart and a 15 month deployment. I knew it would all be fine, even though he's been distant for a while. But as of a few hours ago I guess I was more wrong than I've ever been about anything in my life. I am finding it really hard to tell you guys. I am in tears writing this and feel like my last five years was for nothing. I feel so betrayed. It was his decision. I just can't believe this is happening to me. 24 days before the wedding? 18 days before I finally got to see him again finally? And less than a month before I give up my life here and move 1200 miles to be with him. I wish I could hate him for doing this to me. I wish I didn't have 250 RSVPs already. What do I do now? I really don't want to leave you girls, because you've been such a big help. I am just so devastated.

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Latest activity by ashley, on June 30, 2014 at 5:56 AM
  • Melissa
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    Im so so sorry. **HUGS**

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  • Amie326 - formally known as"."
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    Amie326 - formally known as"." ·
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    I am so sorry hun, keep your head up. Everything happens for a reason.

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  • Esther
    Super June 2010
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    Tomorrow I cancel the venue, photographer, dj, flowers, and everything else. And I'm supposed to have a hair trial tomorrow, but I guess I'll just turn it into a hair cut. I just don't know what to do. And how do I tell the guests, if I can't stop crying? Ugh. I can't believe this happened to me.

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  • sueshe
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    I'm so sorry this is happening. Stay around for a while - we'll all be here to support you.

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  • Dory
    Super September 2010
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    Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry for the pain you're feeling now. I realize there's little anyone can say right now to help you feel better. Just know that while you don't know what will happen tomorrow, there will be a tomorrow and God does have a plan. Hang in there, I'm sure you have many friends and family that will help you through this time and there's no reason you have to quit visiting with us here. You can decide when or if you want to do that. Take care, you're in our thoughts and prayers.

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  • JulyBaby82
    Super July 2010
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    Oh man,that really sucks....I don't really know what to say other than,hang in there.I'm pretty sure that if my FH called it quits 18 days before our wedding I would be IRATE!!So,kudos to you for keeping your cool.I'm sooo sorry this has happened to you.Keep your chin up girl,things can only go up from here.You know WW and all the girls are always here for you,even if your not planning a wedding anymore.(((hugs)))

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  • JulyBaby82
    Super July 2010
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    *24 days

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  • W
    Master June 2010
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    Honey, I am SO sorry. Is there a friend or family you can ask to take over for you? Give them all the contact info and have them call everyone. You don't need to worry about that right now.

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  • Esther
    Super June 2010
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    I'm just so hurt. He finally told me today that he has been cheating on me with this girl who lives in the barracks across the hall from him. How could he do that to me?? I even encouraged him to be there for her while she was going through a hard time and was cutting herself. I know what it's like to be going through a depression where you hurt yourself and you need someone. But sleeping with my fiancee? That's just beyond words.

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  • Lilly
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    This totally breaks my heart Smiley sad Smiley sad Smiley sad I remember you posting about having a hard time with being apart and were soooo looking forward to seeing him again. Millions of hugs your way.

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  • Deirdre
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    Oh honey. That is really awful. Do you have your Mom or a bridesmaid that can handle everything for you? Like calling the guests and vendors? You just need to focus on you right now. You shouldn't have to worry about figuring out logistics right now... (hugs)

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  • Esther
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    Lilly, I waited for him for 3 years. I just can't handle this kind of betrayal. He thinks he might keep seeing her. And he's not even coming home to say any of this to my face. I hate that. I wish I could hate him. It would be so much easier.

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  • Bright Eyes
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    FutureMrsL, I am sooooo sorry. My heart absolutely breaks for you!! I hope that everything works out for you, and I agree that you should ask a close family member or BM to take over. Again, I'm soooooo sorry, and if you need absolutely anything, I'm always here. Just PM me!!

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  • Deirdre
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    Oh Lord. What a scumbag, piece of trash. Makes my freaking blood boil for you!

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  • Esther
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    I guess I could give it all to my mom. I just can't believe it's over. And if I cancel them it's so permanent. Why do I have to do this? I might send him all the numbers. It's the least he could do.

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  • Sharon
    Master June 2010
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    Ah sweetie, I'm am SO very sorry. This is the second time in 30 minutes I have had a friend give me this news. Nothing anyone can say will make it feel better right now, keep your family and friends around you that you love you. Know that this is not your fault, this is his deal and he should own it. You are worthy of a love that doesn't walk away at this point, you are worthy of a man who doesn't run away 3 weeks before you make this huge commitment to him.

    I know none of that makes you this feel better, just concentrate on yourself and getting through each day.

    I'll be thinking of you xxxxx We all will x

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  • Cathasach
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    I am so sorry for your sadness and your broken heart. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Lots of love and hugs to you in troubled times!

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  • Esther
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    I just wish I could hate him for this. But how can I when I've given him 5 years. I know I keep saying this, I just don't know what else to say. And it kills me because I know his mom is gonna blame me, because he sure as hell wont tell her that he's been cheating on me for weeks. And I don't want to tell anyone, but God help me, if that woman tries to turn this around on me I will tell her.

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  • Deirdre
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    Have your mom help you. He should be man enough to help clean up this mess but don't count on it. He should have been man enough not to cheat on you or at least to tell you earlier that he no longer wanted to marry you. This is his mess but unfortunately he probably won't have anything to do with the clean up. Lean on your friends and family right now and let them help you through this. (hugs hugs hugs!)

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  • Cathasach
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    If I can offer any advice the best thing I can say is who cares what others think of you when he has caused you so much pain. He has chosen his path and his choices are not your fault. As hard has it is, chin up and don't think about what others think of you. All that matters is what you think of you. We are ALL here for you.

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