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Your Outer Banks wedding is one of the most significant days of your life, and you want all your visions and dreams to come together on that day. I can make that happen for you. I honestly care about your wedding and about the entire process that leads up to that day.

With more than 35 years of experience helping to plan and carry out hundreds of Outer Banks weddings, you can rest easy knowing that you are working with a dedicated professional who has helped many a bride and groom come to the end of their big day with grins on their faces, love in their hearts…and no stress!

And, by the way, I love weddings! Everything about them makes me happy. You might think that being in the middle of so many weddings and rehearsals, one could get jaded or begin to think of them as just the next event. But I never get tired of the emotions, the ties that happen between friends and family, the small details that make your wedding just like you or the awed hush that happens among the assembled guests as one of my brides starts her processional toward the love of her life. It never, ever gets old. I live in the excitement that you bring to this loving, happy event in your life and help you create it exactly as you’ve envisioned, even if all you need from me is coordination for just the wedding day or for the rehearsal.

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Frequently asked questions

What is the starting price for day-of wedding coordination?

$950

What is the starting price for partial wedding planning?

$2,000

What wedding events do you provide services for?

Ceremony
Reception
Rehearsal Dinner

What wedding planning services do you offer?

Day-of Coordination
Full Planning
Partial Planning

What weddings do you have experience planning?

Civil
Cultural
Destination
Double Weddings
Military
Non-Religious
Religious

Reviews of To Have And to Hold OBX

Michael
Michael Sent on 11/15/2025
5 out of 5 rating

10/10 Wedding Coordination!

Brenda was everything and more! We hired her for day-of coordination at our wedding at Roanoke Island Festival Park, and she had calls with us EVERY MONTH for the entire year leading up! She made sure everything was on track with our vendors, and set out the decor for the reception. She is a lovely person and we truly loved working with her! Thank you so much Brenda!
Amy
Amy Sent on 04/20/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Hire this company

Brenda and her team are simply amazing. Brenda is kind and caring. She listens to your vision and ideas and makes them happen! She is devoted to her brides and grooms. We had monthly calls to keep us on track and make the necessary decisions on the time schedule. At rehearsal she laid everything out and made sure we all knew our roles and positions! Day of- she and her team were everywhere! Making sure we were moving and keeping us on track. Bringing us food and drinks while we had a couple minutes of down time. She kept the reception rolling so we had plenty of party time! She helped make my day simply perfect! Highly recommend! She cares so much and it shows!
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Callie Sent on 01/26/2022
5 out of 5 rating

Amazing!! Can’t recommend her enough

Brenda went above and beyond for us! We had a date change (thank you COVID) & she was able to hop over to our new date with us. We were not an organized couple & she helped keep us on track with monthly calls & our wedding day went off without a hitch! It was so organized, and I was stress free knowing everything was in very capable hands. We did quite a bit of DIY and Brenda put all of the decor out and made our table scapes just like the pictures I'd sent her with the greenery we'd gotten. She helped coordinate all of our vendors! Brenda was invaluable to our wedding & I would recommend her 10/10! We so appreciate everything she did for us. Our wedding would have been chaos without her, I mean really😂
Brianna
Brianna Sent on 07/13/2021
5 out of 5 rating

Life Savers!!

Brenda and her girls were life savers!! My mom and I thought that we would be able to do everything from start to finish on our own and boy were we wrong. We hired Brenda about a month before the wedding, super late in the game. Brenda was respectful that we had a vision and everything done we just needed it to be executed the day. of the wedding. They were so helpful in making sure that everything went smoothly the day of our wedding and everything did. They even stayed to help clean up EVERYTHING that had to be put away from the wedding. We could not thank them enough for making the day enjoyable and easy going. Her and her girls even set up our sparkler exit and lit all the sparklers for us.
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Bernard Sent on 06/20/2021
5 out of 5 rating

A step above the rest!

Brenda is beyond phenomenal! We are both from Pennsylvania and vacation in the Outer Banks every year with our family, so when it came time to get married, we decided what better place than May 2020 in OBX! We were referred to Brenda by a local caterer, and from the very first phone call, she was extremely knowledgeable, kind, and easy to work with. She helped us plan every single detail every step of the way. She has been planning weddings in the OBX for a long time, and it really shows in her knowledge of the local area, her rapport with local vendors and businesses, and her recommendations on what to do / what NOT to do (i.e. "DON'T go with this venue because every wedding I've worked there has had issues with the property's septic system, consider this one instead!").

As we got closer to our date and COVID-19 happened, we needed to postpone our wedding. We were all sad, but Brenda quickly worked the logistics with all of our vendors and helped tie up all of our loose ends.

Brenda is top notch, and if you are planning on getting married in the Outer Banks, be sure to give her a call!!
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Terri Sent on 12/06/2019
5 out of 5 rating

Brenda is a wedding planner superhero

BRENDA IS a wedding planning SUPERHERO. Her superpowers are vast and amazing and there is no way that I could properly list all of the big and little things that Brenda did in the months leading up to my daughters wedding and during the wedding weekend... that made our day fun, relaxing and memorable. My opinion ,as mother of the bride- Brenda was worth every penny. If you are planning a destination wedding in OBX- you need Brenda- She knows everyone- her preferred vendor list is full of reliable vendors who know exactly what needs to be done to make your wedding planning and wedding day stress free and perfect! She has OBX leverage! I did not believe that this could actually happen- but Brenda was totally right when she said her job was to make sure that … All I had to do was put on a pretty dress and show up to have a fabulous time at my daughter's wedding! It really did happen just like that! Brenda found a new florist two weeks before the wedding, when the one I chose (bride was deployed) could not meet my daughter's budget. Brenda recognized guests who needed care, special treatment or a bit less alcohol and she addressed these specific needs discretely and professionally. Brenda dealt with the details so I could focus on my daughter! Brenda is uber - organized and she provided a flawless ceremony, coordinated with the vendors, ensured that my daughter's wedding vision was a reality. I suspect that Brenda even ordered the perfect weather for our outdoor ceremony. Brenda allowed us to truly celebrate the occasion with friends and family because we did not have to worry about anything. Brenda and my daughter got along so well- and Brenda empowered my daughter to trust her instincts and they made this wedding a very personal and unique event. Brenda made us feel like our wedding was the most important and most special event.. She will do that for YOU too. Thank you Brenda for EVERYTHING- You set the standard very high...
Melinda
Melinda Sent on 10/30/2019
5 out of 5 rating

Brenda is amazing!

Look no further! Brenda and her crew are absolutely amazing. I could not have asked for a better day of coordinator. She kept me sane and organized all the way through. She was like my organized, caring mom throughout the whole process. She always had a listening ear when I was overwhelmed and stressed about everything coming together. She is the reason everything came together so amazingly even when the weather did not want to cooperate. The day of I did not have to worry about a thing, which was truly a blessing. Again, I could not recommend Brenda even more. She is the BEST!!!
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User4543541 Sent on 06/07/2019
5 out of 5 rating

Brenda went Above and beyond for us

We booked Brenda about 8 months before our wedding. She was available to meet when we went up to OBX and readily available by phone. She helped us with vendor recommendations since we were out of town and went with us to meet with all of them. But beyond that.... 2 months before our wedding we lost our venue. I was out of town for work for 2 weeks and Brenda helped find us another venue and get our vendors switched. On top of all that 2 days before our wedding we decided to move the wedding up a day due to storms coming in!!! She helped get ahold of all the vendors to see if everyone could switch. Brenda went above and beyond her duties!! So thankful we hired her as our wedding planner!!! There is No way we could have done it without her!
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Haley Sent on 01/13/2019
5 out of 5 rating

Absolutely Amazing Assistance!!!

Brenda was an absolute joy to work with for my wedding last June. Her monthly phone calls & meetings were incredibly helpful for making sure I stayed on track with everything I needed to do, and she and her team made sure our wedding went off without a hitch! She was knowledgable about all the vendors on the OBX and was able to make recommendations when needed. She helped get all our rentals set and thought of details I wouldn't have remembered. I have absolutely zero regrets about getting her involved in our special day, and I would recommend her to anyone!
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Lisa Sent on 11/25/2018
5 out of 5 rating

Brenda is the best!

We hired Brenda for Day of Coordination and she was fabulous from start to finish! With her many years of experience as a wedding planner in the Outer Banks, she has worked with a lot of the vendors and had excellent advice for out-of-towners planning a destination wedding. What you can expect with Brenda is an experience that is really tailored to your style and vision. She gave us guidance based on her experience and provided us with options so that we could make the choices that were right for us. Every month leading up to our wedding day, she scheduled a call to review the wedding checklist to ensure we were on track with booking vendors, sending invitations, getting a headcount, etc. Some calls were 20 minutes, others were over an hour. She really took her time with us and always had our best interests in mind. I really looked forward to our calls, which gave me much needed peace of mind! Brenda is warm and friendly and an absolute pleasure to work with! I highly recommend her services! One of the best decisions we made was booking Brenda!
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Professional Network & Endorsements

1 Endorsement
Rev. Jay Bowman Rev. Jay Bowman Wedding Officiants

I've performed many weddings with Brenda at the planner's helm and she has delivered every time. I mean, 'every time'! That's like mission impossible. Her experience and expertise in Outer Banks weddings is impressive, but what I like most is her heart of gold that values everyone around her. If you're lucky enough to have her as your planner, you're in really good hands.

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