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Your Outer Banks wedding is one of the most significant days of your life, and you want all your visions and dreams to come together on that day. I can make that happen for you. I honestly care about your wedding and about the entire process that leads up to that day.

With more than 35 years of experience helping to plan and carry out hundreds of Outer Banks weddings, you can rest easy knowing that you are working with a dedicated professional who has helped many a bride and groom come to the end of their big day with grins on their faces, love in their hearts…and no stress!

And, by the way, I love weddings! Everything about them makes me happy. You might think that being in the middle of so many weddings and rehearsals, one could get jaded or begin to think of them as just the next event. But I never get tired of the emotions, the ties that happen between friends and family, the small details that make your wedding just like you or the awed hush that happens among the assembled guests as one of my brides starts her processional toward the love of her life. It never, ever gets old. I live in the excitement that you bring to this loving, happy event in your life and help you create it exactly as you’ve envisioned, even if all you need from me is coordination for just the wedding day or for the rehearsal.

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Frequently asked questions

What is the starting price for day-of wedding coordination?

$950

What is the starting price for partial wedding planning?

$2,000

What wedding events do you provide services for?

Ceremony
Reception
Rehearsal Dinner

What wedding planning services do you offer?

Day-of Coordination
Full Planning
Partial Planning

What weddings do you have experience planning?

Civil
Cultural
Destination
Double Weddings
Military
Non-Religious
Religious

How many planners are on your team?

1
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Amy Sent on 04/20/2023
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Brenda and her team are simply amazing. Brenda is kind and caring. She listens to your vision and ideas and makes them happen! She is devoted to her brides and grooms. We had monthly calls to keep us on track and make the necessary decisions on the time schedule. At rehearsal she laid everything out and made sure we all knew our roles and positions! Day of- she and her team were everywhere! Making sure we were moving and keeping us on track. Bringing us food and drinks while we had a couple minutes of down time. She kept the reception rolling so we had plenty of party time! She helped make my day simply perfect! Highly recommend! She cares so much and it shows!
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Callie Sent on 01/26/2022
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Amazing!! Can’t recommend her enough

Brenda went above and beyond for us! We had a date change (thank you COVID) & she was able to hop over to our new date with us. We were not an organized couple & she helped keep us on track with monthly calls & our wedding day went off without a hitch! It was so organized, and I was stress free knowing everything was in very capable hands. We did quite a bit of DIY and Brenda put all of the decor out and made our table scapes just like the pictures I'd sent her with the greenery we'd gotten. She helped coordinate all of our vendors! Brenda was invaluable to our wedding & I would recommend her 10/10! We so appreciate everything she did for us. Our wedding would have been chaos without her, I mean really😂
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Bernard B. Sent on 06/20/2021
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A step above the rest!

Brenda is beyond phenomenal! We are both from Pennsylvania and vacation in the Outer Banks every year with our family, so when it came time to get married, we decided what better place than May 2020 in OBX! We were referred to Brenda by a local caterer, and from the very first phone call, she was extremely knowledgeable, kind, and easy to work with. She helped us plan every single detail every step of the way. She has been planning weddings in the OBX for a long time, and it really shows in her knowledge of the local area, her rapport with local vendors and businesses, and her recommendations on what to do / what NOT to do (i.e. "DON'T go with this venue because every wedding I've worked there has had issues with the property's septic system, consider this one instead!").

As we got closer to our date and COVID-19 happened, we needed to postpone our wedding. We were all sad, but Brenda quickly worked the logistics with all of our vendors and helped tie up all of our loose ends.

Brenda is top notch, and if you are planning on getting married in the Outer Banks, be sure to give her a call!!
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Professional Network & Endorsements

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Rev. Jay Bowman Rev. Jay Bowman Wedding Officiants

I've performed many weddings with Brenda at the planner's helm and she has delivered every time. I mean, 'every time'! That's like mission impossible. Her experience and expertise in Outer Banks weddings is impressive, but what I like most is her heart of gold that values everyone around her. If you're lucky enough to have her as your planner, you're in really good hands.

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