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Where do pew bows go?
My mom just told me you should only have about 6 pew bows, 3 for each side to signal where immediate family should sit. I thought pew bows went on every or every other pew. What is customary for a wedding?

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Posted On: Aug 13, 2009 at 1:29 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Creative Edge Floral Design

Creative Edge Floral Design
Aug 13, 2009 at 1:59 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's totally up to you. It depends on your wedding style and budget. I've done weddings with pew decor to signify special seating for the family and weddings with every pew or other floral decorations added. I've also done weddings where no pew decor at all was ordered. It's totally up to you. You can also decorate every pew, but use a different color or extra special decor for family seating.
Aug 13, 2009 at 6:39 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Most weddings I design use 10 bows and they are placed on every other
pew or chair row to mark the aisle. The old saying "within the ribbon" meant the first 2 rows of the family seating. BUT that is not the current trend or meaning of the pew bow.
The bows are used to outline the asile .
We do not allow any guests to "walk the center" aisle and will tie a ribbon on the back pew to have ushers secort up the sides for non VIP's.
Parents, and grandparents and on occassion godparents walk in the pre ceremony and then the bridal party and bride.

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Wedding Coordinator at Norton Chapel

Norton Chapel @ Keuka College
Aug 14, 2009 at 9:47 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have seen it done a number of ways. Most recently we have had our couples placing pew bows on every pew or everyother pew. This gives it a more complete look. In the past however it was customary for couples to place their pew bows on the first few rows to indicate where immediate family would sit. You shouldn't really need to worry about people sitting in the "wrong pew" however. That is why you designate ushers to assist people to their designated seats. It really depends on the look that you are going for. Personally in our chapel it looks more elegant if you have the bows on every or everyother pew. Just gives it a more finished look, but ultimately it is your choice :)

Lori Cole Events

Lori Cole Events
Aug 14, 2009 at 4:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I like to do the pews bows on every aisle or every other aisle. I wouldn't plan for anyone to know that the ribbons signify "family only" if you only do the first few rows. That is no longer an observed tradition, in my experience. If you want family only in the first few rows, I would make small signs or direct the ushers on how you want people seated. If you do every aisle, you get really nice photos!


The Flower Lady
Aug 18, 2009 at 9:18 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Unless a bride is set on bows, I try to stay away. simple tie with a cluster of flowers is way more "elegant" and out of the ordinary. I did a wedding where the bride we tied simple knot and cluster 1/2 dozen full blown roses tucked. Very simple and nice hit of color and trendy!

And yes, somehow set the first few pews, chair rows etc. with a bit more to stand out..a bit more greenery, extra color or flowers.

I have also used a grapevine wreath with a few flowers to accent, just hanging on the end.
It doesn't matter what the flow or style of the wedding is, there is always something unique that can be done to make Your wedding day and decor unique, just like YOU!

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