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Should my current spouse sit next to me, the bride's father, during the wedding ceremony?
As it is now planned, I am walking my daughter down the aisle. I will sit in the front row, first chair. My ex-wife and mother of the bride, is scheduled to sit next to me (front row, 2nd chair). Her current husband is scheduled to sit next to her (front row, 3rd chair). The last (of four) chair in the front row is assigned to my daughter's step-brother. My current wife is assigned the first chair in the second row, directly behind me. Her three children, my step-children, are assigned to sit in the same row, chairs #2, #3, and #4. My current wife was not involved in raising my daughter to be married. However, her step-father was very much involved in her upbrining. Would etiquette dictate that my current wife sit next to me in the front row? This would place her next to my ex-wife (mother of the bride). The last chair (#4) would be occupied by the step-father, my ex-wife's current spouse. This would bump the bride's step-brother to the second row, with my wife's children.

Married: 05/18/2009
Posted On: Feb 11, 2009 at 5:57 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 09/13/2008
Reviews: 5
Feb 11, 2009 at 7:28 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
All I can say is WHOA!! I believe all of the parents should be in the front row both birth & step & all siblings half, step, whatever should be in the next row. But does it really make that much of a difference? Is this causing a family rift? Just be happy for your daughter & sit wherever the wedding couple tell you to sit, stop adding stress to the bride & groom. I really think you have overthought this seating just a tad too much.
Feb 11, 2009 at 9:47 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The protocol for divorced parents is as follows:

First Row:
Mother Bride Step-Dad Grandparents Step siblings

Second Row
Father Bride Step-Mom Grandparents Siblings

Hope this helps !!

Reverend Rich

Married: 02/14/2009
Reviews: 5
Feb 11, 2009 at 11:24 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It doesn't seem fair to put some1 who didn't raise her up front with 3 people who did & to bump her brother back. I think the seating arrangements sound pretty fair & also if your daughter chose it then that's the way she wants it & that's what really matters. Plus your wife will still be right there with you-just behind instead of next to.


studio G occasions
Feb 12, 2009 at 2:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The clergyman's answer is correct, but I like that your daughter has placed you in the front row. The current seating arrangements sounds just right.
Feb 18, 2009 at 12:18 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I believe etiquette has it's time and place but in this situation could make things very complicated. Is it about etiquette or that your daughter has a beautiful uncomplicated wedding day? There should be no reason why your current spouse should not sit next to you during the wedding ceremony. What does your daughter think?

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