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Rehearsal Dinner Invitees
This may be a silly question, but who gets invited to the rehearsal dinner? I know the bridesmaids, groomsmen and the parents; but do the readers and ushers get invited too? Is it wrong to not invite them with a guest to the dinner?

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Posted On: Oct 26, 2007 at 7:27 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Stacie B.

Absolute Best Events: The home of Affordable Wedding Planning and Coordination
Oct 26, 2007 at 8:42 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
As a wedding planner / coordinator I hear this question a lot.
My suggestion, is that you invite all who is involved in the wedding. You are correct with parents, bridesmaids, and groomsmen. In addition my feeling is that any one who you have requested a certain job from. AKA ushers, readers,etc should also be invited. I also feel that out of respect it is important to invite your officient if he or she is a family minister or family pastor.
I suggest any children involved be excused from the rehearsal dinner.
As far as inviting the guest of your wedding party, no it is not wrong. The only time I would suggest extending the invite to a guest would be if he or she were the spouse to the wedding party member. But even then it is not expected.
Best Wishes,
Stacie Blair
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Oct 27, 2007 at 2:54 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Any one who is participating in the wedding should be invited this includes ushers, readers, and the officiant.
It is not wrong to not include guests in the dinner, the only exception should be whether they are married then their spouse should be invited.

Mazer Photography

Sara Mazer Photography
Oct 27, 2007 at 9:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Don't forget your photographer! Actually, I wouldn't worry about a meal for her since it is not expected, but you might want to invite her for two reasons. First, you may want to record this event in photographs. I lot of photographers cover rehearsals for a nominal fee or build it into their packages. But, if not, you would want to at least collaborate with the photographer ahead of time for some details on the order of events and suggestions for walking down the isle. For example, maybe you would want to designate a spot for a quick pause and glance at the camera and practice it with your partner. That way, you get better photographs than if each person was looking in a different direction.


studio G occasions
Oct 29, 2007 at 1:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Anyone who is part of the ceremony should be invited, thought generally not wedding professionals - although I do like the idea of the photographer going - its their chance to get a feel for the personalities invovled. My clients usually invite me, but I generally decline. I would consider inviting any family member who have travelled from out of town for the wedding, since they very likely have naught else to do!

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