Bride and groom on a tandem bike

Photo: Allison Jeffers Wedding Photography

Wedding planning can have its stressful moments, but the experience as a whole is supposed to be fun, not nerve-wracking.

Take Breaks
It’s very easy to think about your wedding all. The. Time. But it’s important to remember all of the other wonderful things in your life, besides this one day. So don’t let wedding planning consume your existence. Try to limit your wedding planning activities to select times during the week, and be sure to take breaks (meaning no talking or thinking about the wedding!) whenever possible.

Talk About It
Sometimes venting to a family member or friend (or an online community of engaged couples!) can be really helpful when it comes to relieving stress. Keeping feelings of anxiety bottled up can make things even worse, so when things get stressful, don’t be afraid to talk to those who love you—they’re here to help.

Learn a New Skill
Taking a class and learning a new skill (cooking, yoga, painting, dancing, or something else entirely!) forces you to focus all of your attention on the project at hand rather than all of the wedding-related tasks you have yet to complete.

Working out is beneficial for a variety of reasons, but it can be helpful in relieving stress. Find a workout buddy—whether it’s your future spouse, a friend or relative—and try to be active regularly, whether that means a trip to the gym, a cycling or yoga class, running, hiking, or playing a sport.

Stay Organized
Being disorganized can be a major source of stress. Using online tools like checklists, budget tools, and guest lists can help ensure that you’ll stay on track and that all of your important wedding details are in one place, and easily accessible and shareable.

Get Out of Town
A quick weekend getaway can do wonders for your stress levels. Whether you’re visiting family or friends, staying in a nearby hotel or inn, or taking a full on vacation, getting out of town can help you and your future spouse reconnect and take a break from the wedding planning madness.

If you have family members or friends who want to be involved with your wedding planning, let them! By assigning tasks (assembling welcome bags or stuffing envelopes, for example) to trusted loved ones, you’re relieving yourself of some responsibilities so you won’t feel completely overwhelmed.

Choose the Right Vendor Team
When it comes to selecting your wedding vendors, it’s important to choose pros that you genuinely like and trust—people who have a real interest in creating your dream day. That way, you’ll be able to relax and let the professionals do their jobs without feeling the need to micromanage or worry.

Hire a Wedding Planner
Even if you’re midway (or later) through your wedding planning process, you can still hire a wedding planner or day-of coordinator to help make your life easier. Planners will help you stay organized, create a wedding day plan and timeline, and take on many tasks that could ultimately become very stressful. And, a planner will be there on your wedding day to make sure everything runs smoothly and you can actually enjoy your big day.

Remember the “Why”
If things start to get really stressful, take a moment to think about the reason you’re planning your wedding to begin with—you’ve found the person that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Focusing on the bigger picture will help you navigate any bumps in the road with a smile and a relaxed attitude.