Why having a dry/self cater wedding because of money is bull

I see a lot of comments in this thread and others saying its about them not the guest and that their guest love them and are there to celebrate with them and blah blah blah. If that's the case the why even have a wedding?! just have a party then. Yes its your wedding it should reflect your taste and be about you, yes a wedding reception is celebration about you getting married BUT if its only catered to the two of you then what's the point? Why stop at dry wedding, don't feed the guest either just let them watch you eat, let them bring their own chairs if they want to sit,.

I completely understand cost but you can have a budget wedding and accommodate and host your guest properly. It can be done. There so many other areas of a wedding that can be cut.

I've gone to two dry weddings before and they both ended early. At one no one wanted to dance because they were shy with out the liquid courage, the other was just awkward while people did dance it was kinda like ok well what do we do in between. Both venues were booked until midnight but everyone left at 9pm.

Another "cost saving" wedding I went to it was self catered and the person(s) who was supposed to bring the food was so late dinner wasn't served until 10pm!

Last year I went to another "cost saving" one where there was no DJ and they had bluetooth speakers but there was no Wifi in the venue.

Recently I've been invited to a potluck wedding.....I'm probably declining.

@Laura, I'm so sorry you had to go through all that.

Laura- Did you get an RSVP like this? LOL

We had a buffet. We had beer and wine and champagne. We had favors (gifts). I properly hosted 120 guests on a budget, we came out debt free. While our parents chipped in a little, my hubby and I paid for nearly everything on our own, including our honeymoon.

Why did we do all this? Because these people came out to sit in the sweltering heat to celebrate with us. Because they came from all over the country, because we love them. Because we wanted them to enjoy the day, and thank them for being with us. I COULD have gone your way, but my family and friends meant more to me than that.

Alyssa- I would put a little FU in the bottom box.

Sandell: I'm pretty sure on every thread that has mentioned someone financing their wedding (hence, going into debt over it) people have told them that was an exceptionally bad idea.

If you save your money, over time it does this thing called growing. So you might start with $500, but over several months to a couple of years, you find yourself with $10-$15k or more to work with as a budget. When you're using your own money, it's not called going into debt.

It also sounds like from what the other ladies have learned about you and what you've said here, you're being incredibly hypocritical. "No gifts, but give us cash, and here's a list of gifts that we want!!"

Your arguments quickly went from sanctimonious and holier than thou to classless, tasteless, hypocritical, and just plain sad. I honestly feel bad for your guests. They have no idea what they're in for. I wonder how grandma would feel if she saw the opinions you wrote here regarding your wedding and wedding guests...

Dammit wrong meme

But here's one for how I feel about my ww ladies giving solid advice/memage

Anyone notice how SoonToBeMrsSandell vanished once it was made knows that she was busted and in fact was asking for gifts 2 years in advance!!!!

Wow, insulting our families now?? You really have lost all legs to stand on, haven't you?

ETA @STMBS.

Can you explain your registry?

@matt i find it very rude to look up my registry which is for my FH cigar party and my Bridal shower which other people begged us to have because we said we didnt want them. So his best friend and my sister in law asked us to please make registries and please let them throw something together. Y'all are so nosey

FFS all you had to say was my fiance is in recovery

You literally said you didn't ask for gifts.

THAT'S ASKING FOR GIFTS.

I love when Richard gets salty

That's asking for gifts, how do you not get that? I highly doubt anyone begged you. You could've politely declined.

You could make it private, but I assume that might make it more difficult for people to BUY YOU THE GIFTS YOU REGISTERED FOR.

@SoonToBeMrsSandell Matt wasn't rude. You unfortunately put too much information on the internet that was easily found and proved you to be untruthful. Why in the name of baby Jesus are people "begging you" to make a shower registry TWO YEARS IN ADVANCE??!?! Sorry, WW will not buy your bullshit. Things get discontinued in that time frame. Do you think people are going to buy you gifts and store them at their house for two years? Also-How do you explain the "we will have a location by the guestbook for CARDS!!!!"

A registry 2 years in advance seems like a logistical nightmare.

I can't even believe your "excuses" anymore.

Haha, people begged you to have a shower? Can you think of a situation in which you would BEG anyone to do that? That doesn't even begin to make any sense. Nice try.