Why having a dry/self cater wedding because of money is bull

None of us are going into/went into debt either

That's why a lot of brides on here had long engagements so they could have the wedding they wanted.

And cooking the day before your wedding? That takes away from spending time with OOT guests/family, nail appointments with your girls, last minute details, getting ready for your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

Yea I relaxed, I didn't cook the day before.

@STBMS -- the topic of this thread is how it's possible to properly host a wedding without going into debt. It was an example of how you can do this on a budget.

We are actually saying you don't have to go into debt for one fucking day and can still manage to not self-cater.

Is it bad that I want to blast that a certain person asking for no gifts may or may not have an Amazon registry?

Dry weddings are just not our style. I've been to several, most in my family are dry church fellowship hall receptions. But those are short, during the day (over by 4pm), and don't involve DJs or much dancing (other than the special dances). Those I don't really mind bc I can still do something with my evening. But giving up my evening for a dry wedding, nah. Its happened once and we left immediately after I finished eating. FH is not big on dancing, he's the guy who likes to stand in the corner talking with a drink in hand. I'm usually dancing. I won't say one is right or wrong, bc different stuff works in different families, but its def not our style.

@STBMS Did you forget the other half of the sentence on your website..."We ask that you refrain from bringing gifts to the reception; however, there will be an area near the guestbook for cards!" Or the two registries that are listed under it? But you asked for "no gifts", right?

I'm not going into debt for my wedding. I'm saving up and paying for the wedding I can afford which is a courthouse wedding with 25-30 people and a restaurant dinner (with drinks afterwards).

@Zoe, you seem to be the one with the issue with alcohol, may I suggest Al-Anon meetings, they may help you get to the root of why you demonise people who drink socially.

LMac- This would be my method since we should probably bring our own food.

@Zoe

M., for the love of all that is holy, PLEASE stop saying those who like a drink or expect one at a celebration have some kind of addiction. *Every* single topic about dry weddings you chime in with your unhelpful posts. Just stop it.

Alcoholism is a serious, destructive disease. It's nothing to joke or even insinuate about

Nope I'm sure not changing my mind lmfao. this is what my FH wants and what I want so why would I change my mind because people i dont even know have an issue with a wedding they wont be attending? My guests will have plenty of food and a very wide variety of beverages. They will have plenty of things to do and will be surrounded by beautiful scenery. If people dont want to attend the ceremony or reception, or both: they don't have to. There would be no hard feelings on my end. Of course I'd want them there but its their choice.

While I am pretty sure that I am about to get a wrist slap email, this has been great.

@WWJo, one of the things that we enjoyed about WWKatie is that she would join in on our convos. She would start discussions too.

@ Devon...I remember that game...aww memories!

Why does this continue to happen???

NO DRY WEDDINGS

NO CASH BARS

NO SELF-CATERING

Repeat it like a mantra.

@WWJo can this be the mission statement at WW?

This thread is keeping me entertained today. There are very rare times I agree with self-catering, well not really agree because I would never do it, but times that I see the justification for it. However most of the self catering advocates on this forum are doing it because they want more guests than they can afford to host. Either way... this is fun to read.

Leaving our reception ****% debt free, guests well fed (with cocktail hour apps, family style dinner with 3 entree choices, and a late night snack plus a dessert bar/s'mores bar), well hydrated (open bar included with the venue, wooot!), and overall well taken care of in general.

So yeah, not going into debt for "one fucking day" because we planned, budgeted, and saved appropriately.

Beth- You should be fine. You didn't post anything just made a observation.

Matt- maybe they are serving waffles at the wedding and they need that to prepare them. They could even freeze them in advance.

And coming from someone who got married in a park ~ WTF is wrong with that???? Didn't go into debt, had beer and wine, had catered food by professionals, all for 56 guests. How about them apples.

ETA: Because I am mad now

@SoonToBeMrsSandell-BUSTED!

Haha, registries done two years in advance while saying "don't buy us gifts..."

Ugh, I know WWjo didn't just come on here and threaten to lock my thread because bootyhurt brides got their feelings hurt over my post. I simply stated a story of someone with less money than these bootyhurt brides and STILL managed to properly host guests.

Not to keep sidetracking, but...

@Kathryn I'll own Friday, I was at an off-site meeting all day Friday and other mods covered, so it may have been quieter from our end, that's a fair comment to give us. And this thread has one comment flagged down, but many more flags, so I thought I'd be proactive.

@MsDani313 I'm not sure my colleagues would love that idea if I ran it up to them

@JessieJV that makes sense. I never overlapped with her so I am just feeling things out as I go, but I can take that note

ETA sorry @AlmostMrsE, but when I saw a group of flags come in I thought it would be best to let everyone have a reminder about the guidelines. I'm not taking it down now, I'd rather let a good debate happen about the topic, and I thought your story was useful so I hope it can stay, this was how I tried to help accomplish that.