Why having a dry/self cater wedding because of money is bull

Yeah I didn't know recovering alcoholics couldn't go in restaurants etc.

I don't get people who say they specifically aren't asking for gifts and make a big deal about that statement, then make a registry. If you don't WANT any gifts then why have a registry?

So why would you have to have a website with a registry info on it if the wedding is only for immediate family and very close friends? Couldn't someone spread it by word of mouth. And 2 years seems really early to have a shower.

Tifany- That was another lame attempt at an excuse from her for having dry/self catered wedding.

And I find it fucking rude as all hell that you think those 5-7 people deserve to be ignored because they are the minority not the majority.

That's like saying I shouldn't have provided a non-meat option for the ONE vegetarian we had at our wedding. MORONIC!

There is so much I don't understand here @STBS. So much.,

You've got a registry. Fine. but why so early? Half of that won't be available in 2 years.

i'm leaving it there because I believe you self catered booze free ideas are asinine.

Wow! This thread! When did it become acceptable etiquette to name call and be mean? I'm not choosing sides, I think both have participated equally in the whole Mean Girls thing. I'm kind of shocked that discussions about etiquette and proper ways to host your guests turn this angry. I personally think there are better ways to express your opinions without getting personal, but that's just me. This makes me sad...

@Kathryn YES! lmao the RSVP card says attending, regretfully decline and dish. It caught me so off guard I wrote a whole thread about it.

Next dry wedding I'm invited to i hope it says dry wedding on the invite so I can decline bc I just can't again

Me and my sister in law were playing with the website, seeing how things look, and she asked me when we got to the registry part what we were doing. I explained to her that I didn't want anything and neither did FH so she started saying that I have to blah blah blah so FH and I talked about if he wanted something and he said we should do it since his best friend and my sister in law were so pumped for it. So we looked at some stuff we would want and threw it on there. Oh god so horrible I know. I added on the website to refrain from bringing gifts because we knew that if people see a registry that they will get gifts which we didn't want. We were fine with a couple things for the shower or his party but we didn't want everyone getting us gifts. The fact that you people are so invasive and feel like it's okay to stalk someone on the internet blows my mind. This isn't Facebook and we are not friends. You all went out of your way to get my personal information, who does that? Just because it is public doesn't mean that I thought people I don't even know would go looking it up over an opinion they don't agree with. The only people that would be at my shower would be guests of the wedding and my sister in law was the one that pushed it on me. Sorry that my family got excited that I was engaged and said I had to have what all you other brides have. I know so gift grabby to have like 14 gifts on a registry that someone else told me to make. Smfh

OMG I love this thread! I'm not getting any work at home done!

@Deborah...WTF...no one called names! Stop white knighting!!!

@STBMS...I too was told that I had to have a bridal shower...guess what I said no...there is still no bridal shower!

STBMS - You can password protect your website, it's the first thing I did. It's called internet 101. I'm old and I know that.

Guess what I don't want gifts, so you know what I didn't do, make a registry or have a shower.

What do I know? I'm paying for my guests to eat and drink food and booze not prepared by me and the people I love. I'm such a bad, bad person.

Devon and why would i expect people i dont know to look it up?!! Especially over this thread?

F5 is on high alert today...

You have 2 years to learn yourself some knowledge there, STBMS. I suggest stepping away from the keyboard and lurking some more.

Hey, guess what? My FH and I built our home in the last year AND are paying for the majority of our wedding. And, we have student loans. Car payments. Bills. And a savings.

Come on, people. It's not an excuse.

So you aren't going to listen to our awesome advice but you let your SIL talk you into having a bridal shower???

DEJ would like to point out another lie, STBMS. There are 17 items on that there registry.

Here's where I stand on this.

I am a vegetarian, right? But that doesn't mean I won't serve meat to my guests at my wedding. I'm going to have a delicious vegan/vegetarian option along with a delicious meat entree.

Just because there will be meat THERE, it doesn't mean I have to EAT it. But why should my guests suffer just because it's my personal preference not to eat meat?

They are my GUESTS, I'm not their guest. My main priority is accommodating them.

I feel similarly with a dry wedding.

If it's not a religious thing, I don't understand why it's so offensive to serve alcohol to your guests who have travelled far and wide to be with you, and bestowed you with generous gifts, to partake in your big day. If you don't want to drink it, then totally don't! But why should they have to abstain because you do?

I hate that "why should they need a drink to enjoy my party" argument because the thing is, they don't. It just makes their time THAT much more enjoyable if they are people who enjoy having an adult beverage for a special occasion.

If you were diabetic, would you also make your guests abstain from dessert?

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