Why having a dry/self cater wedding because of money is bull

Stuck up and petty? because someone looked at your registry and website in which you keep lying about?

Your'e right we don't know you. But we're nitpicky about what you say because YOU SAID It and then backtracked it or your website/registry completely contradicts your words. It's hypocritical, and yet we're the ones who should be ashamed?

@Mrs.Bueno - Most of that name calling came from the other side

@STBMS - Does everyone in your real life validate your bad ideas? We don't. We're the people who tell you that your skirt is tucked into your underwear BEFORE you leave the washroom, or that you have spinach in your teeth BEFORE you have to make that presentation in front of your entire marketing team.

If you don't have people like that in real life, I'm sorry. Maybe when you grow up, you will find friends like that too.

Matt B. L. M. F. A. O. !!!

@soontobeMrsS (good you changed the name to something more discreet) I know some of these can be a little harsh but that what this site is. You share your ideas and opinions and if others think it sucks they're going tell you. The fact that you don't know any of us just means that we're going give you the cold hard truth and give you unbiased opinions. You can still do your wedding your way!

I wrote a thread before and started to feel attacked and was like whoa these bitches but then I got over it because I saw it as unbiased advice and opinions that I started to understand.

All your friends and family are going tell you what you want to hear, but here we're going tell you like it is.

Dry weddings suck, they just do sorry.

Ok ok...We are sorry...

The idea of a dry bar is..."selfish, cheap, stupid, petty, stuck up, etc."

Is that better?

@Mrs Bueno - We have mostly been reiterating what certain people have been spewing at us. Not directly name calling, more clarification.

STBMS-I literally can't believe all the bullshit you have spewed on this thread. Not to mention the lies. How dare you sit on a your high horse talking about "we aren't even asking for gifts" when you have a fucking registry? Your "excuse" or story as to why you have a registry doesn't change the fact that you have a registry asking for gifts. I want to say more, but what would be the point.

@ Allison (I love you by the way) When I was still catering, we had a client ask for an "overeater anonymous' choice...

Kinda takes all the fun out of being anonymous doesn't it....

"Who gets the OA plate?"

duh

Also- FYI

If people know it's a dry wedding, I guarantee they will sneak in booze. I 100% guarantee it.

@Allison...you are right...I did...my whole table did...it was GREAT!!!

Just sayin...lol

It wasnt hyprocritical at all. You all assumed it was because you didn't and still don't know the full details.

What I am calling petty is the fact that if I say 14, someone corrects with 17. I'm sorry you guys look at the registry more than me, apparently. I didn't care much about the registry so I don't even remember what was on there or how many things. I say stuck up because if you're going to call someone cheap and a poor host simply because they want a dry wedding, then in my opinion that is stuck up.

Yes, in 2 years my FH will be very well (he already is 9 months in) but he has already expressed to me that he still doesn't wanna be around it very much, so I respect him and his wishes. If he doesn't want any alcohol there, than so be it. It doesn't bother me if its not there.

No, we would not turn down an invite if there were a bar, but this is our event and we choose not to have alcohol. Just how it is for some people.

@ Celia- OMG! That's humiliating!!!

Soon? Just stop posting okay? Because nothing you've posted makes anything you've said any better.

Congrats on your fiance's sobriety. At some point, he will learn to be around alcohol, which will be a pivot point in his recovery.

Mrs Bueno - stick around a little while these threads get a little tedious after a while.

STBMS - Your justifications are sounding hollow, that's what people are responding too. Also, calling us stuck up is not helping your cause.

Here's the thing, your reception isn't about you and your FH, it's about your guests. If you have guests that want to drink, provide them with something, even wine and beer. If you don't want alcohol and you don't want to provide for your guests, elope. Have a private ceremony, problem solved. It also solves your shower problem.

@beachyLauren isn't that kinda the definition of hypocripsy? Say one thing does the exact opposite?

STBMS you won't convince us you're right, you sure as hell won't convince you are. My suggestion? back away from this thread. Lurk awhile, let this blow over and then come back and not get so defensive about every minor detail.

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@Allison Can we be friends? Almost spit out my water more than once! LOL

@laura, i totally get that and have no problem accepting opinions. The issue I have is how others instantly start insulting which I did not do until my personal information was being dug up. The way you just commented is how more of these women (including myself) need to.

I am not asking for my wedding guests to get us gifts, period. The registry was made ONLY for the bridal shower (which yes will be a few wedding guests) and if any of my FH's friends wanted to get him something for his cigar party. As I've said, i only put it together because my SIL and my FH's best friend pressured us into it so we thought okay, why not at least for the shower. The only reason gifts even came up was because i was told i was only having a wedding to be "gift grabby" which yes offended me because i didnt even want gifts and dont want my guests to bring or buy gifts. If they want to bring something, we felt a card would be just fine.

In my real life, all my friends and family are super blunt and straight forward. Even i am the type to tell you that yes, that dress does make you look fat. So it isnt the opinion that i have a problem with. It's the way a lot of these women go about it that is frustrating and insulting.

Not everyone is cheap just because they dont want alcohol and feel like self catering because they have the means to do so easily and safely.

Clearly i would not be having this type of wedding if my friends and family wouldn't enjoy it. Id be doing exactly what many have said and we would elope.

@Celia, my FH is fine around alcohol. He just doesnt LIKE being around it anymore if he doesn't have to be. Which is why he wanted a dry reception.

Im all for the opinions, its the bashing and digging up of personal information that I found really out of pocket.