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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

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I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • Tiffany
    Devoted November 2016
    Tiffany ·
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    @ Bailey J there is a huge difference between accepting help and demanding help.

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  • JMA
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    JMA ·
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    We are!

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  • FutureMrsDolog092416
    Dedicated September 2016
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    We are paying for everything except food

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  • Aida
    Expert November 2016
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    I planed everything and Made everything ... Except flowers Smiley smile

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  • K
    Just Said Yes September 2017
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    We are

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  • SarahAnn1015
    Super October 2016
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    We didn't ask for help. If they hadn't offered and insisted we would have waited or had something much smaller.

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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated October 2017
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    We are paying for the majority of it except my FMIL offered to pay for the cake and my sister is helping with pay for some of the flower cost. In no way did I ask any of them for help. I feel that since we are adult enough to get married we are adult enough to pay.

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  • studentloansforlife
    Super September 2017
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    Right here except FH mom insisted she help pay for the welcome dinner.

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  • Rennyrenrennerson
    Super November 2016
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    100% FH and me!!!

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  • Sarah195
    Master October 2016
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    It's great and all that you're all paying for your weddings but this post comes off wrong to me. Don't make people who's parents are paying feel bad for it or ashamed for it. My parents are paying because they want to and they offered. And FH's parents offered as well. That's not to say that FH and I aren't contributing to anything but the vast majority of our wedding is being paid for. We are well aware how blessed and lucky we are.

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  • JSmith2U
    Master March 2016
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    Bailey, this post is to prove a point, not to say that anyone is better than the other. You may be able to find the original post if you look through the threads.

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  • Chrissy4985
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    We are

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  • Tiffany
    Devoted November 2016
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    @Future Mrs C...there was a post earlier today where comments were made to the effect that it is tradition that the brides parents pay and in a very entitled manner the girl slammed her father because he wasn't willing...she also went on to say that she didn't believe there were that many people paying for their own weddings. I in no way meant to make anyone who is lucky enough to have help feel ashamed...I think it's awesome that your family is able to help. On the other hand, the reality is, that tradition died a long time ago and there are more people paying on their own. I was just trying to prove a point...not shame people who have help.

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    We are paying for our own wedding with the exception of my dress. Every wedding dress in my family was paid for by the bride's mother so my mom decided to keep that tradition. Everything else is us and we will be 100% debt free on our wedding day!

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  • Megan P.
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    We are! FW and I are a same sex couple and neither of our families are thrilled, to say the least. We never even thought about asking for help because we know it would be out of the question regardless. The best thing we could ever ask for is for them to show up to our wedding.

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  • FutureMrs.G
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    We Are!

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  • Meridith
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    Meridith ·
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    We are!...Minus the shoes, my mom bought my shoes

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  • Sarah195
    Master October 2016
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    @Tiffany I understand that but it did come off like those paying for their own weddings are superior to those whose parents and family members are helping them.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes October 2016
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    We are & I did for my 1st wedding 20 years ago as well.

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
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    We are paying 2/3s of ours?

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