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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

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I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Morgan ·
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    We are!

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  • future_mrs_c2018
    Super October 2017
    future_mrs_c2018 ·
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    By the time my wedding comes around I'll be paying about 25% of costs, but didn't ask and I am so grateful for their help

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  • Kayla
    Dedicated September 2017
    Kayla ·
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    We are

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    Master May 2017
    VC ·
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    We are

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  • BeachDreams
    Master May 2017
    BeachDreams ·
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    My parent's are contributing, but we are fully capable of paying for everything in full in case my parent's are no longer able to contribute for whatever reason. @Cassidy, I totally got your sarcasm there and it was hilarious hahaha.

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  • Meaghan
    VIP April 2017
    Meaghan ·
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    My parents are paying for the reception catering which probably comes to half the budget- as well as the invitations. They also insisted on a newspaper engagement announcement. FILs are doing RD. We are doing Welcome party, Morning-after breakfast, photography, videography, our attire, transportation, church/music, donations, flowers, decorations, favors, any and all gifts and little trinkets, welcome bags, honeymoon, STDs- basically everything else. I am very grateful for our parents' help in getting our families together under one roof to celebrate "us" and each other as family. As a military couple, we are rarely close to home. This wedding means so much to us. Our marriage means even more.

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  • Cassidy
    Savvy March 2017
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    @BeachDreams I'm glad you find me funny when you can Smiley smile

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  • Crystal
    Dedicated September 2016
    Crystal ·
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    Iam

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  • 2HeartsBeatas1
    Super July 2017
    2HeartsBeatas1 ·
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    We are

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  • Aida
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    Aida ·
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    We are

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  • Mrs. Librarian
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    Mrs. Librarian ·
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    I am! My mom did buy my dress though :-)

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  • Jaimee
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    Jaimee ·
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    We are. Both sets of parents have offered to contribute (his offered to help when he told them he planned on proposing and my mother is one of those people who follows the tradition of the bride's family paying for the wedding ceremony; my step-mother offered to pay for the cake). At this point, though, the money isn't in hand and we're budgeting to pay for 100% of the bill(s). If they offer to pay as payments are expected to be made great, but we're quite comfortable paying for it all when the time comes.

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  • Diane
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    Diane ·
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    We are!

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    Devoted September 2016
    BlueSkies ·
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    Our rule is, if someone offers to help by donating.. we graciously accept. But we NEVER ask ANYONE or assume it's anyone else's responsibility. We are deciding to get married, why should anyone else have to spend money because of that?

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  • FutureMrsBueno
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    FutureMrsBueno ·
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    This girl here

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    Savvy June 2017
    Ginny ·
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    We are paying for everything.

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  • MrsKristenS
    Master August 2016
    MrsKristenS ·
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    We paid for the majority of our wedding plus our honeymoon. My parents basically covered the ceremony venue and about 2/3rds of the reception venue- they offered us a set amount up front (I.e., they ROCK)! We were really lucky to have my parents, but we still came up with 20K+ and that's on top of building/buying a home the same year- budget, budget, budget! It can be done!

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    Future Mrs.S ·
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    We are!

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    We are

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  • melanie
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    We are

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